im an A* student, & i have been predicted 8 A*’s in my gcse’s which i will be sitting in may this year. i work hard at school and try to achieve to make them happy. yet, theyre never satisfied. theyre constantly engrossed in my brothers achievements and i never get so much as a well done. I also try to help around the house, and im always offering to do odd jobs just to make them appreciate me a bit more, but it seems the more i do, the more further they get from me. im scared that in a few years time, i will lose contact with my brother, mum & dad if we carry on like this ..please don’t tell me to discuss it with them, because it isn’t that easy, it’s just something i can’t do .
But all isn’t bad, i have some amazing friends who try and help me lots. Im very thankful to them all for being there, but none of them actually understand as they go home to such loving families. please help

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My mother, who is a fairly recent convert to Christianity, lost her job. I let her stay with me, rent free, in my home, and she desecrated my altar room (twice) and destroyed several things I hold dear that cannot be replaced, including a table made for me by my deceased father.

We went to counseling, and decided to live apart. I’ve been putting her up in a hotel since then, but the money needed for that and my bills is causing strain on me, to the point where grocery money is going toward her bills.

Apparently none of her church members are willing to take her in, believing she should stay with me and "be an example of the Lord’s love" to quote her.

I can’t put my mother out with no where to go, but I can’t afford to keep her in a hotel either. I keep my altar room locked, but she got in there before after it was locked.

I really don’t know what to do.
I do owe her for my life and raising me, but where we once lived together in peace, but now the constant fighting and passive aggressive behaviour and disregard to my things make it hard for me to handle, that’s why we chose (together) that a hotel would be better, but money is becoming an issue.
I’m not trolling, in fact, it was suggestions here on R&S that suggested a hotel and counseling. That’s why I came here to ask with this latest problem.
She’s trying to find a job, (I think) but she’s disabled and was working at the same place for thirty years before they fired her, so I don’t know.
The key to my altar room I kept in my jewelery box, she must have found it. It’s not about my personal possessions so much as m religious items that are very important to me. I would not destroy her statues or her Bible the way she did to my things, and that table was the only thing I had from my father.

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My just turned 6yo son said to me yesterday…. Mummy why do you say penis when its a doodle? so i explained to him that there are many names but the correct word is penis…. So while on the topic i thought i might have our first little talk so i said to him "Do you know the correct name of a girls parts?" he said yes its a Vagina… i was a little shocked but ok with it cause we have not had this talk before with him….

He then said to me "That’s where babies come out of the mummy" i said how do you know that and he said that one of the girls in his class told his teacher that babies come out of a little hole in the vagina. So his teacher sat down and told his class that when a man marries a women they will "make love" and have a baby then the baby grows inside eggs in the mummy’s belly then when the baby has finished growing then the baby pushes down really hard and comes out of the mummy’s vagina…. Then he said she told them how a mummy’s vagina can open really big to let the baby out…..

Now i know none of what she told them was wrong but i dont think a teacher should be telling a class of 20 kindergarten kids about these things… My husband and i were looking forward to this talk with our son and we would have been very age appropriate as we need to be…. We spoke about this with his older brother…. His 10yo brother knows everything he needs to know about sex and how babies are made but we told him in stages when we thought he was ready and even now we continue to make sure he remembers everything and we wanted to tell our younger son by the same method when he is ready plus we dont believe in telling our children that you need to be married to have sex or have children, because you can still have sex and get a girl pregnant without marriage and dont want our kids learning different than that.

Do you think his teacher is wrong here, should she have told the kids because i thought she should have sent them home to ask us… i feel like she has taken something away that i wont have the chance to do again… plus i wasnt ready for him to know just yet am i wrong for feeling this way? what are your thoughts? i dont know whether to confront her because she is a wonderful teacher who also taught my eldest in kindy but i feel really ROBBED….
I know this is the wrong area but i wanted genuine opinions of married people and parents alike…
@kira- we would have spoke to him soon about some things but then take it up in levels as he gets older, we started talking to our eldest when he was 7 and its a graduale process, not all at 10yo. so we kept ahead of the curve so to speak…..

@Linda G- funny you say that because she has no kids but she has been a kindergarten teacher for a long time, she is about 55yo i think
@Art – we have always answered any questions they have asked us, we believe in telling them when they are ready or need to know, so if they are asking questions we answer, we began telling him before he asked questions then he began to ask questions as time went by to which we have always answered…..
@Trixilicious – i am not a troll i am asking a genuine question…. This was my Husbands account before mine so maybe get your facts right before slinging up stuff you know nothing of…

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My just turned 6yo son said to me yesterday…. Mummy why do you say penis when its a doodle? so i explained to him that there are many names but the correct word is penis…. So while on the topic i said to him "Do you know the correct name of a girls parts?" he said yes its a Vagina… i was a little shocked but ok with it cause we have not had this talk before with him….

He then said to me "Thats where babies come out of the mummy" i said how do you know that and he said that one of the girls in his class told his teacher that babies come out of a little hole in the vagina. So his teacher sat down and told his class how when a man marries a women they will make love and have a baby then the baby grows inside eggs in the mummy’s belly then when the baby has finished growing then the baby pushes down really hard and comes out of the mummy’s vagina…. Then he said she told them how a mummy’s vagina can open really big to let the baby out…..

Now i know none of what she told them was wrong but i dont think a teacher should be telling a class of 20 kindergarten kids about these things… My husband and i were looking forward to this talk with our son and we would have been very age appropriate as we need to be…. We spoke about this with his older brother…. His 10yo brother nows everything he needs to know about sex and how babies are made and i wanted to tell our younger son as well when he was ready…

Do you think his teacher is wrong here, should she have told the kids because i thought she should have sent them home to ask us… i feel like she has taken something away that i wont have the chance to do again… plus i wasnt ready for him to know just yet am i wrong for feeling this way? what are your thoughts? i dont know whether to confront her because she is a wonderful teacher who also taught my eldest in kindy but i feel really ROBBED….
@Melyssa – i agree with teaching them periodically as this is what we did with our eldest…. now he knows all he needs to know… but we still discuss these things with him occassionally to make sure he hasnt forgot plus to re-inforce what he already knows…. sure i know my 6yo will not be scarred or anything but i was not ready to start discussing in that much detail yet and i dont think its anyones right to but mine….

@everyone who doesnt like the saying "Kindy" that is actually the class name at the school and is commonly used as the name for kindergarten in Australia…. dont know about everywhere else…. My son is in class Kindy green, thats the name and there is also Kindy yellow

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We have our own house in India and I have been working in Oman for last 5 years. We want some advice regarding documents necessary for applying for US tourist Visa from Oman for my dependent parents….they want to visit my sister in United States.

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My friend and I are babysitters and we will be babysitting two children, a 9 year old girl and a 2 year old boy. Any tips? What should we do with them that’s fun? The boy loves curious george and the girl is very smart.
I am looking fun activities to do. It will be during the school year. We already know that we could read, but we are looking for other ideas.

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My friend has a 4 year old son who is very big for his age.. I mean literally everyone thinks he’s at least 6 or 7. She does not want to take him off of his pacifier and bottle. This is so embarrassing cause whn we go out in public people stare and I’ve even seen people take pictures of him sucking a pacifier. She says it soothes him (WTF?) He is in pre-k at an elementary school where he doesn’t take the pacifier and when he goes away with his father he doesn’t have the pacifier. So why does she give it to him when she’s with him by herself? he sucks a bottle that she’s cut the top of the nipple to where he can suck freely. That’s not the kicker, she even put’s cereal that newborns use and still heats it up in the microwave.. What is the problem with her?
@Turtles.. Yes a friend. I dnt have a child sweetie and I damn sure wouldn’t be coming to a message board abt my unfit parenting abt MY child!!

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My best friend (we’ll call him Nick) has just come out to me as gay. He has yet to tell his parents, and he’s frightened because they are very strong Christians. They refuse to associate with homosexuals, and condemn atheists. Nick is frightened of being disowned, because unfortunately, they seem the type to do this. He’s 21 and lives alone, so at least they can’t throw him out.

Nick is also a Christian, as am I, although nowhere near as narrow-minded as they are. Nick is one of the kindest, most genuine and caring people I will ever know, and I couldn’t ask for a better friend. He did not choose to be gay – he’s been hiding this for about five years, but understandably, he’s had enough.

Nick is gay, but he does not shut God out of his life, which is supposed to be the biggest sin of all. You don’t stop loving/caring for someone because of their sexual orientation, and if God would condemn someone like Nick to hellfire simply because of his sexuality, then I want nothing to do with this God. Now, I have strong faith, but I don’t shove it down people’s throats; the God I believe in loves us all equally, and encourages us all to do the same. Nick and me treat everyone equally (atheists, agnostics, homosexuals, bisexuals, other religions, etc.) and I am disgusted that Nick’s parents refuse to do the same.

Has anyone got any advice for me to give Nick before he comes out to his parents? It’s hard to comprehend what he’s going through. He is not a sinner, he has done nothing wrong and has nothing to be ashamed of. I believe that what his parents are doing goes against everything that religion is supposed to be about, which is love.
He is not dependent on his parents in terms of money. He works full time as a mechanic and earns a good salary.
Bibigirl, please READ the question before you give a pathetic answer like that. Yes, we are both Christians, and it’s been this way our whole lives. I think I know if we are or not. And again, he did NOT choose it. He can’t help who he’s attracted to, and he knows how horrible Christians (which are likely to include his own parents) can be about this. He knows the kind of prejudice and abuse he may have to face from the world. Do you really think that anyone would CHOOSE to be treated like that? People like you are the reason he tried desperately to ignore those feelings, but he shouldn’t have to. He is not a murderer or a rapist or anything of the sort, and therefore is NOT a sinner. Go and educate yourself, Bibigirl.

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Without getting in to all the details, my husband will be working second shift next week. This will leave me to the cooking for our daughter and myself. Ugh…world’s worst cook! I can’t even make Minute Rice! (No, really…I’m a great baker, but I can’t cook. I burn the pan, I burn the food, I under cook….) Anything in the oven is easy enough, but a quick "whip something up and throw it on the stove" terrifies me!

So, parents, any advice? Ideas? Recipes?

Also, considering I’m going to be alone with a curious and FAST toddler whilst cooking … advice on keeping her safe and out of the way while still entertaining her? (She just won’t sit still!)
Why do you have to submit the question 47 times to get it to post? I’ve not posted questions after hitting "submit" with the proper category because I forget the next page is another "are you sure you really, really, REALLY want to submit this?" Ugh. Good thing I didn’t go back to my profile before heading back to Parenting…would’ve lost another question!

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HI!! So I am from Illinois, I’m in a community college already where I live, I will be graduating in about a year and a half with 2 associate degrees, My major is Elementary education, and a minor in psychology. I am in 2 different honor programs one at a national level and one in my college. I have a 3.8 out of 4 GPA. I’m 20 So I would be 21 when I go to a university.
So the question is I’ve been looking at a college in New York specifically the (CCNY) with Hunter college, they have a program for teachers. So my question is Whats peoples opinions on Colleges out east.
Another little problem is my parents have always wanted me to stay where I am, but this college is affordable for me and exactly what I want. So problem number 2 my family don’t know That I am REALLY looking at this college, It’s in NYC, I’m from central Illinois. Two diffrent worlds, But I always wanted to go to NY. Should I drop a hint now being about a year and half away, then work to get them to understand me over the next year, Or should I just not tell them to like 3 months before. I know that sounds bad, but my family’s is strongly against me leaving! Like my family has thrown out my mail from other colleges that where not around the town I’m at……I’m ready I think for this, It’s like the only thing that keep me smiling everyday that thought of maybe going there. So what should I do HELP thanks

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