Long story shortened best as I can: I have a daughter in California who lives with her Grandmother. Until about 18 months ago I had no idea she even existed. But now that I know I am trying to step up the way a man should.

Please forgive me for making this sound so impersonal. I am trying save feelings by not using any names.

While I was dating the mother she had explained to me that her mother had never let her do things around the house, and refused to teach her how to do these things. Basically handicapping her and insuring that the daughter would be dependent on her for a very long time.

Well when the daughter finally rebelled and decided that she was old enough to make her own decisions, Mom kicked her out. Leaving her a social cripple. Well the girl had no skills and was fully female in design. Before she met me had already made 2 babies.

Here’s the kicker!! Since she had no parenting skills, and no means to support the childred, Her mother raised the grandchildren. And so the cycle continues. My ex-girlfriend, the Mother of these children, had no control over this situation, and could not get the children back.

This is so much more that simply being an over-protective parent. It’s as if this woman feels like if her children, or grand children never grow up, then she will never grow old.

Now she has MY daughter and has has her for 18+ years and is refusing to let her mature past the emotional age of 12 or 13.

I WANT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAUGHTER!!! But this Witch has her deadlocked and under her control!

Sad part of it is, Now this control freak has my own mother thinking that this is the right thing to do!
Important to note I know that I could have done something a few years ago but now the girl is 19 years old and I having trouble finding someone who will understand that while she is an adult, and can make her own decisions, she is trapped the emotionally.

I know that there is a technical name for this syndrome. It is not Munchausens by proxy, but there has to be a name for this. If I can nail that down, I may be able to find a group that deals with this condition specifically.

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Suppose a man and woman have intercourse, she becomes pregnant, and the man, who is pro-life, thinks of the fetus as a human being, but the woman gets an abortion. Why is the abortion not tantamount to murder in this case?

Both man and woman are parents, and the woman carries the child. Yet surely to be a parent, a generator of the fetus, a procreator, is to have a closer relationship to the fetus than merely to contain the child physically. And we can raise the question, again, of whether in fact such a husband is allowed to live out his pro-life convictions in our society. It is not even clear that the husband is "free not to have an abortion", as the bumper sticker alleges, if his wife wants to have one. What if his wife is set on aborting every one of his children?

Newt Gingrich/Sarah Palin 2012!!!!
blah blah blah her body.. get back in the cotton field

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I’ve know that there are some people that are so close to their step-dads that they are/were adopted by them and take their last name and have a genuine relationship just like that of a biological parent-child relationship. I wonder if there are people that share this same strong bond with their step-father but still keep contact with their biological dad also. What’s that like?

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I know everyone may have a lot to say about this, but I am asking only from answers of practicing Muslims who have confessed the Shadadah and keep Islam faithfully.

1) In English, do you prefer to refer to Allah as "God" or as "Allah" or are the two names interchangeable in your opinion when used in English?

2) Which of the following has been the MOST influential to you in developing your feelings and beliefs about Allah? The Quran, Hadith/Sunna, Your Imam, Family, Friends, Personal prayers and personal reflection/revelation, or another source?

3) God has 100 names – which of his names are the most representative of Allah to you? Which would you say are this top 3 to 5 characteristics?

4) Does Allah SWT have a personality that can experience human emoitons, or is such a thing beneath him? We learn in Quran and Hadith that he is merciful and compassionate. Do you feel that Allah knows and loves you personally?

5) Briefly describe your relationship with Allah SWT. Is it a devoted master-servant relationship, a personal parent-child relationship, or other?

6) In general, how does Allah feel about people of the book and other nonbelievers? How do his feelings (if that is the right word) toward non-muslims differ from those toward Muslims?

Thank you for your time! It is really valuable to me to learn more about this and I hope you will also include: your gender, approximate age, location of origin, and whether you were raised in Islam. If you a revert, how long have you been practicing?

I am a student of Arabic and Islam and I am writing a paper on the Nature of God/Allah as represented in the Noble Quran, the Hadith, and according to the opinion of Muslims. So, please be aware that I may summarize your words for inclusion in my paper (just for class project – not publication), but I will NOT use your name or personal information. Your privacy is protected.

Please chat or email me (kazoinker@gmail.com) if you would like to talk about this more. Shukran awi!

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I ask this because we have one on the way and don’t know what to expect. I babysat and such in my younger days (in my 20s now), but I feel like it will be different somehow when it is my own child. Fiance has noo experience with babies! lol

I know it’s a lot of work allllllll the time, but is it really rewarding? What’s it like? I know it seems like a stupid question, but I only have one perspective of the parent-child relationship (my own, as from when I was a child)! Nice answers only please.Thanks

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I’m about 20 and am not thinking of adopting any children so don’t worry. However, I don’t ever see myself being married to someone. I’ve been screwed over and put down by enough girls to not like them anymore. I’ve never even been in a relationship and I’m a junior in college. I would like to have a son one day though, and be a good father to him and hopefully raise a very morally strong, level headed contributing member of society. I want to be a good dad but I don’t see a mom in my future at all. I would adopt after receiving an MD or a similar career in the medical field. Would it be possible to raise a child by yourself while being a physician? Is this even socially acceptable? I wouldn’t want to adopt a child if I couldn’t be there for him like a parent should be. I was adopted by the way and I honestly don’t know if I would be alive right now had my parents not have.
This is just a hypothetical question, adopting a child would not be just so I could have one. I want to be a father because I want to pass down everything I have learned in my life to someone else who can hopefully be a leader and a good person
yeah you guys are probably right. i mean i already pretty much knew the answer to this question but oh well.. hopefully i can just donate to a nice adoption charity and make a difference that way

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puts a lot of emphasis on character relationship, other than love and romance. I want something that really focuses on the relationship between best friends, or between siblings, or a parent/child relationship. There can be romance in it, sure, but I’d also like for other kinds of love to be present. Can be any demographic, yaoi and yuri are fine. I only ask that there be no hentai or nudity.

Examples of what I’m looking for are Ouran High School Host Club, NANA, Air TV (for the ark at the end with the mother/daughter love), School Rumble, the Higurashi series, Welcome to the NHK!, etc. (the previous are some of my FAVORITE animes/mangas.)

Others include: Minami-ke, the ARIA series, black cat, special a (kind of), tengen toppa guren lagann, baccano! (with isaac and miria), busou renkin (with kazuki and his friends), fruits basket, ghost hunt, etc…

I’ve seen quite a few animes and read quite a few mangas, so please prvide me with a lot of answers. ^^. And don’t give me anything with more than 100 episodes! Any length manga is fine.

Thanks in advance

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I am a single parent and my child is constantly demanding my attention. Its exhausting. I can’t imagine how married people manage a relationship around their child. Are there any mature men out there?

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I was brought up in a dysfunctional family . I am 25 years old. I started rebelling when i was probably 10 years old becuz of the illogic ways my family ( even uncles and aunts) were behaving . But my rebelling were all mostly aimed towards my dad . He was the most violent person I have seen . When i was a kid he would lock me up in my room , yell at me for no reason , act like he’s about to hit me ,
basically took all the anger he had towards his own life , on me. .

I went through depression since I was in 5th or 4th grade. It was only recently I found out, through this girl , who I dated , who broke up with me ,…that…. what I went through was called "Emotional Incest" It’s a term used for a parent child relationship where the parent is overly involved or if there is a sort of surrogate partner relationship .( ( I tried to help her before me , but she couldn’t process the information , things got ugly , she went with her family and plus i didn’t have a job at that time ) )
The funny thing is that I am a guy , usually this kinda dysfunctional relationship only happens between the mom and son or the dad and daughter.. But in my case ( since my dad – i am 90% sure is a bi-sexual ) , it was between me and my dad. No touchy wouchy, Just Emotional . Basically what this means is , I was supposed to be in charge of his Emotional Well Being.

Even my mom reinforced this idea into me when i was growing up . She used to say oh you and dad are like always together. So long story short. I never received love a father should give his Son , while he’s growing up . And recently like months ago I taught myself skills to overcome my major depressive mood swings, anxiety , panic attacks and many other disorders.

2 months ago my dad tried to stab me, so i called 911 and now he’s going to court. In the midst of all this , i went to college got my degree in electrical engineering ( as per my mom’s wishes )
Lemme fast forward to the present .As sad as it may sound I live with my parents in a crummy apartment the only thing I Wanna do right now is get the hell out my Parents house.. No one understands me , and plus I wanna use my degree to get a job in electrical engineering and make some money that way. After that I am gonna pay out all my loans and follow my dreams ( Do what I wanna do ) ..

But I can’t seem to do anything because I feel like if i go work then it’s Just Like My Mom’s Forcing Me to Go To College again , and I can’t make my brain believe that it’s not her making me do This ( because it was that painful to be lied to once , When i was in high school she told me i can DO ANYTHING I WANT once i get high school diploma , then when i was in college she lied again saying , i can do anything I WANT once i get my college degree ) and That it’s Me myself.
I am not 100% sure if this is the reason , but i believe that my mind is thinking , if I do something Again that i don’t like( LIKE PREVIOUS TIMES ) then i am going to go into Clinical or Major depression like before and it wasn’t pretty . I don’t know what to do . I know i won’t go into depression or anything of that sort because I have much better coping skills now. I just want to get a job make enough money , QUIT my job and , do what i wanna do , NO MATTER how stupid that sounds… ahh, i don’t know what to do !!!!

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I was brought up in a dysfunctional family . I am 25 years old. I started rebelling when i was probably 10 years old becuz of the illogic ways my family ( even uncles and aunts) were behaving . But my rebelling were all mostly aimed towards my dad . He was the most violent person I have seen . When i was a kid he would lock me up in my room , yell at me for no reason , act like he’s about to hit me ,
basically took all the anger he had towards his own life , on me. .

I went through depression since I was in 5th or 4th grade. It was only recently I found out, through this girl , who I dated , who broke up with me ,…that…. what I went through was called "Emotional Incest" It’s a term used for a parent child relationship where the parent is overly involved or if there is a sort of surrogate partner relationship .( ( I tried to help her before me , but she couldn’t process the information , things got ugly , she went with her family and plus i didn’t have a job at that time ) )
The funny thing is that I am a guy , usually this kinda dysfunctional relationship only happens between the mom and son or the dad and daughter.. But in my case ( since my dad – i am 90% sure is a bi-sexual ) , it was between me and my dad. No touchy wouchy, Just Emotional . Basically what this means is , I was supposed to be in charge of his Emotional Well Being.

Even my mom reinforced this idea into me when i was growing up . She used to say oh you and dad are like always together. So long story short. I never received love a father should give his Son , while he’s growing up . And recently like months ago I taught myself skills to overcome my major depressive mood swings, anxiety , panic attacks and many other disorders.

2 months ago my dad tried to stab me, so i called 911 and now he’s going to court. In the midst of all this , i went to college got my degree in electrical engineering ( as per my mom’s wishes )
Lemme fast forward to the present .As sad as it may sound I live with my parents in a crummy apartment the only thing I Wanna do right now is get the hell out my Parents house.. No one understands me , and plus I wanna use my degree to get a job in electrical engineering and make some money that way. After that I am gonna pay out all my loans and follow my dreams ( Do what I wanna do ) ..

But I can’t seem to do anything because I feel like if i go work then it’s Just Like My Mom’s Forcing Me to Go To College again , and I can’t make my brain believe that it’s not her making me do This ( because it was that painful to be lied to once , When i was in high school she told me i can DO ANYTHING I WANT once i get high school diploma , then when i was in college she lied again saying , i can do anything I WANT once i get my college degree ) and That it’s Me myself.
I am not 100% sure if this is the reason , but i believe that my mind is thinking , if I do something Again that i don’t like( LIKE PREVIOUS TIMES ) then i am going to go into Clinical or Major depression like before and it wasn’t pretty . I don’t know what to do . I know i won’t go into depression or anything of that sort because I have much better coping skills now. I just want to get a job make enough money , QUIT my job and , do what i wanna do , NO MATTER how stupid that sounds… ahh, i don’t know what to do !!!!

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