This is a case of the child coming before the spouse, (girl/boyfriend). Is it ever ok to intentionally ignore the needs of a the spouse and put the child so far ahead that the child sleeps in the parents bed (With only 1 parent in the bed with them) or take the child on a night out that was meant for the adults even though there was a babysitter?
I should also note that there is nothing wrong with putting children first. Only need answers for the question above.

REMEMBER: This is not a question of who comes first, that has been established.

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I was brought up in a dysfunctional family . I am 25 years old. I started rebelling when i was probably 10 years old becuz of the illogic ways my family ( even uncles and aunts) were behaving . But my rebelling were all mostly aimed towards my dad . He was the most violent person I have seen . When i was a kid he would lock me up in my room , yell at me for no reason , act like he’s about to hit me ,
basically took all the anger he had towards his own life , on me. .

I went through depression since I was in 5th or 4th grade. It was only recently I found out, through this girl , who I dated , who broke up with me ,…that…. what I went through was called "Emotional Incest" It’s a term used for a parent child relationship where the parent is overly involved or if there is a sort of surrogate partner relationship .( ( I tried to help her before me , but she couldn’t process the information , things got ugly , she went with her family and plus i didn’t have a job at that time ) )
The funny thing is that I am a guy , usually this kinda dysfunctional relationship only happens between the mom and son or the dad and daughter.. But in my case ( since my dad – i am 90% sure is a bi-sexual ) , it was between me and my dad. No touchy wouchy, Just Emotional . Basically what this means is , I was supposed to be in charge of his Emotional Well Being.

Even my mom reinforced this idea into me when i was growing up . She used to say oh you and dad are like always together. So long story short. I never received love a father should give his Son , while he’s growing up . And recently like months ago I taught myself skills to overcome my major depressive mood swings, anxiety , panic attacks and many other disorders.

2 months ago my dad tried to stab me, so i called 911 and now he’s going to court. In the midst of all this , i went to college got my degree in electrical engineering ( as per my mom’s wishes )
Lemme fast forward to the present .As sad as it may sound I live with my parents in a crummy apartment the only thing I Wanna do right now is get the hell out my Parents house.. No one understands me , and plus I wanna use my degree to get a job in electrical engineering and make some money that way. After that I am gonna pay out all my loans and follow my dreams ( Do what I wanna do ) ..

But I can’t seem to do anything because I feel like if i go work then it’s Just Like My Mom’s Forcing Me to Go To College again , and I can’t make my brain believe that it’s not her making me do This ( because it was that painful to be lied to once , When i was in high school she told me i can DO ANYTHING I WANT once i get high school diploma , then when i was in college she lied again saying , i can do anything I WANT once i get my college degree ) and That it’s Me myself.
I am not 100% sure if this is the reason , but i believe that my mind is thinking , if I do something Again that i don’t like( LIKE PREVIOUS TIMES ) then i am going to go into Clinical or Major depression like before and it wasn’t pretty . I don’t know what to do . I know i won’t go into depression or anything of that sort because I have much better coping skills now. I just want to get a job make enough money , QUIT my job and , do what i wanna do , NO MATTER how stupid that sounds… ahh, i don’t know what to do !!!!

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I grew up in foster care because my mom abandoned me and my dad molested me so I don’t know much about parent/child relationships. I have an 11 month old daughter with my boyfriend of 4 years. We had our own apartment but then things happened and long story short we ended up back in his dad’s house for the time being.

I’m beginning to notice that his dad is trying to be a ‘father’ to our child. He buys her lots of toys, he makes decisions on what her room will look like – long story short he tries to take over my boyfriend’s role as father. The thing is, my boyfriend DOESN’T CARE! It doesn’t matter what his dad says or does my boyfriend goes along with it. Heres some examples:

His dad tells me I’m a deabeat mom and tells me I don’t love or care about her. I am 100% mom I am home with her all day I feed bathe change and do everything for and with her. His dad even threatened to call CPS on me even though I did nothing wrong – he DOESN’T CARE and says nothing.

I had suspicions about his dad because he babysat our daughter overnight once (when we weren’t living here) we brought a big stack of diapers and they suspicious;y disappeared overnight. He did not question his dad.

His dad yells at me in front of him and makes me feel like crap and when I walk away and go cry he sits next to his dad and ignores me too and doesn’t stand up for me.

Is this normal father/son relationship? Some background on them – my boyfriend didn’t graduate high school because he didn’t "want" to and his dad agreed with him. They have been smoking weed together since my boyfriend was 12.His dad has been diagnosed with manic depression and OCD.
Dork – I don’t have an "Iphone" my shirts cost 5 dollars at most and I only have a few of them, I don’t "do drugs", all my money and effort is directed towards my daughter so you really need to mind your own business and quit judging.

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Okay, Christians claim that humans have a "god given moral compass." My moral compass tells me that an eternal suffering (hell) that your God has put in place for non-believers like me is immoral. An intellegent, loving God could come up with any number of ways to deal with non-believers, so what’s up with the eternal torture? Is this a moral system? Please don’t use the "we have free will" argument. It does not apply here. Think of it like a parent/child relationship. The child may have the choice as to "obey" or not, but the parent decides the punishment. So please don’t say "free will" at any point in your answer because you would just be avoiding the question. Also, please don’t state that "satan" is responsible for hell. Satan could not be the creator of anything. Only your God could create a place like hell.

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A judge in Texas has already assumed jurisdiction and issued a temporary order in a suit affecting the parent-child relationship, despite the venue being improper, as the child resided in a different county at the time of the filing of the petition. Can I file something to make him dismiss the case and require the petitioner to file the case in the county where the child actually lived? I know the Texas Family Code says that the petition must be filed in the county where the child resides. What would I file to have this dismissed because of the improper venue? Is it too late? Someone said I had to object to this before the hearing. I actually did bring this up at the beginning of the hearing. It was in my answer, but the judge ignored it. Is an appeal on these grounds my only recourse if the judge doesn’t care if he’s breaking the law by assuming jurisdiction in this case?

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Before you all tell me to get a lawyer, know that I am counseling with one, but was hoping to get some answers on here as well. I am in the middle of a custody study/dispute, and a guardian ad litem was assigned. At the moment, we have joint custody and I have full placement by default because he did not show up for the temporary physical placement court date. The comissioner stated that the father is not allowed to bring this issue before the court again without good cause. Now the guardian ad litem is motioning the court to "Amend Temporary and Physical Placement Orders to Effect FCS Observation of Parent-Child Relationship". When I spoke to the guardian ad litem, she told me she was only going to arrange 3 visits with the father and my child so the custody evaluator could observe, but now she is asking the court for consistent, continual visits after that.She has also requested full control to approve the person(s) who will be supervising his visits, despite telling me that this would be conducted at a counseling center in a safe environment. I am VERY concerned by this. There is a history of domestic violence on his part, drug and alcohol abuse, and my child (who is 3 years old) displayed many signs of anxiety and aggression when he had visitation with his father in the past. (He had visitation on weekends for almost a year, but has not seen my child since January-9months) Do I have any legal footing to stand on to object to this? Any legal advice would be very much appreciated.

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I want to search for my birth parents but I do not want to find them only to find they don’t want to know me. How common is it to have birth parents that want a relationship with their baby they put up for adoption?

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Now I am a student, the parents don’t understand my idea, always with their idea that I do what he does not enjoy doing. How to communicate with their parents?

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My grandmother who receive child support from my father dis-owed my brothers and sister. She told me that she didn’t want anything to do with them and now I am taking care of them. They are 17, 18, and 19 all of which are still in high-school (that’s why she still receives child support). She doesn’t want to give me legal guardianship because she doesn’t want to give up the money. However i can’t do anything for them as far as un enrolling them from school, filing for child support from my father, or putting them on my health care. Can i do all the filing on my own. There was an original motion to modify parent child relationship. I live in harris county houston texas

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So the man that I left my boyfriend of 7 years for has broken up with me. He broke up with me because I told him about these past warrants that I have. I have told my family about him and they get mad at him because he has decided not to help me at least get the warrants taken care of. I just spoke to my ex and told him everything. I told him why I left our relationship and everything that has happened; which should have had him livid. But when I told him about the guy that I left him for and how I did lie to him for almost a year and about how the guy that I’m with now doesn’t really want to give me a chance, my ex still has open arms for me. He even asked if I wanted to come back home. I told my mother about what my ex said and she said that that was the difference between my ex and the guy that I am with now. My ex has unconditional love for me. He forgave me. Is there really unconditional love btwn lovers and the guy i was with just didnt have it for me?

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