My wife is a Russian. We are in different religions. We live in my country for 3 years. She can not speak my language and do not want to know anything about my culture. Now she is pregnant and i am worried about my child will be raised how she wants. She always says the children should be raised the way she wants. Every time we argue about something it ends up with she is going to Russia. What should we raise our children?
I am worried that she will go to Russia with my children and she never come back. My child and i will be like foreigners.

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Okay first of all yeah I’m 20 years old; no I’m not with my children’s father.
I have twins who are 3 years old I was with their father for 5 years. I left him about 3 to 4 months ago. He started to get a bit abusive and I wasn’t going to raise my children in that situation. I moved out of state because I was accepted to a college in California, and if I stayed my family would have talked me into staying with my ex. We were never married.
We met when I was 14 and him 17. I got pregnant when I was just a month shy of turning 17. I only stayed with him because that’s what my family wanted. I was not happy, so I left.
I now have a three bed room, two bath, a basement, and a decent back year.
I work and go to school, but I still spend plenty of time with my children. They go to a private daycare, for 4 to 6 hours a day, except on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays. They spend every other min with me.
So tell me would they have been better off with me staying with their father? Or getting them out of there like I did?
I am not trying to keep them away from their father. He gets to see them once a month for about a week. However I am looking into making sure that there will be a supervisor around since he has threatened to take them away.
So am I a bad mother because I’m 20? Should my children be taken away because I’m not married? Please someone tell me honestly wouldn’t you have done the same thing in my situation?

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Before you all tell me to get a lawyer, know that I am counseling with one, but was hoping to get some answers on here as well. I am in the middle of a custody study/dispute, and a guardian ad litem was assigned. At the moment, we have joint custody and I have full placement by default because he did not show up for the temporary physical placement court date. The comissioner stated that the father is not allowed to bring this issue before the court again without good cause. Now the guardian ad litem is motioning the court to "Amend Temporary and Physical Placement Orders to Effect FCS Observation of Parent-Child Relationship". When I spoke to the guardian ad litem, she told me she was only going to arrange 3 visits with the father and my child so the custody evaluator could observe, but now she is asking the court for consistent, continual visits after that.She has also requested full control to approve the person(s) who will be supervising his visits, despite telling me that this would be conducted at a counseling center in a safe environment. I am VERY concerned by this. There is a history of domestic violence on his part, drug and alcohol abuse, and my child (who is 3 years old) displayed many signs of anxiety and aggression when he had visitation with his father in the past. (He had visitation on weekends for almost a year, but has not seen my child since January-9months) Do I have any legal footing to stand on to object to this? Any legal advice would be very much appreciated.

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What was your relationship with your mother like, growing up? And how about your father?

I just want to see if there’s any correlation between parent-child relationships and orientation. I know there’s no psychological evidence to support how one’s orientation was formed(and there IS biological evidence!) but there’s no harm in asking questions, right? =)

-I was always very close to my mother; practically raised only by her. My father was not present a lot when I was a child, and our relationship now is rocky…

-My mom was always ‘tough’, strong, and into a lot of sports, quite the tomboy. Similarly, I love wrestling, boxing, and other "boy" things.

-I have been attracted to men and women in the past, but for the past 3 years I’ve been exclusively attracted to women…older women(40s) in particular.
I am 21 btw.

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So what could be wrong with me?
So the story starts with me being about 3 years old who lived with her parents until it was about time for me to be part of the school system. Since my parents lived where the school system Was’t so good they decided that I had to live with my aunt. So I lived with my aunt for 7 years. In those 7 years I barely got to see my parents. I got to talk them every once a while. So I didn’t really have a parent-child relationship. Then when I was around 10 my parents had to migrate to the states along with me. So now I am “reunited” with my parents. Apart from the fact they were too busy working all the time barely had any time for me. So I started feeling really lonely and depressed but since we lived with my grandparents I still managed to keep it covered but then one day we obviously moved out. When we moved out I started feeling even lonelier because when I got home school there was no one to talk to. There were days where I barely saw my parents because by the time they got home I was already asleep. Then all the sudden I started asking questions about identity. That was the time I needed my mom the most obviously she was never there. By this time I was in 8th grade and I found the comfort of having a mom in my counselor. My counselor meant everything to me. She was basically like my mom. She was always there for me even outside of school. Obviously not having a mom I got really attached to this counselor. I was very emotionally attached to her. She used to work at the high school. Everyone (administrators) at high school found out about this “relationship” and I was no longer allowed to be in contact with her. So then it took me till my junior year to get over this. The summer between my junior year and my senior year I met someone through online who became my “mom”. I would try to talk to her every single day. I would tell her everything that happened in the day. And at times we managed to have “heart to heart” conversations. But then I was kinda of getting little jealous when she would talk about her daughter. Then one day I started getting this vibe that I was bothering her so I stopped talking to her as well as her daughter. I deleted her off my facebook I stopped calling her I stopped texting her and everything. Then after that I met someone else at my work that was too young to my mom so she ended being my “big sister.” Now I feel like I am already bothering her. Like she is ALWAYS there for me. But then I feel like I bother her when I try to talk to her every day. Or at least on the days we are at work. I text her every now and then sometimes she replies saying a single word like lol or something but then when I don’t reply her she is like how come you never text me back. And that’s because I get mad when she doesn’t pick up her phone so that’s like my “revenge”. So that is the story of my life now the question is that I don’t know why but I feel like I get emotionally attached to people really easily and really fast especially if they are really nice to me. I hate this feeling especially when for some reason I am parted from them. I don’t know what to do. Like sometimes I just wish when I am crying that someone would come and give me a HUGE hug and tell me everything’s gonna be alright but obviously I don’t really have anyone who does that.

By the way I am 18, single and kinda some what happy

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So the story starts with me being about 3 years old who lived with her parents until it was about time for me to be part of the school system. Since my parents lived where the school system Was’t so good they decided that I had to live with my aunt. So I lived with my aunt for 7 years. In those 7 years I barely got to see my parents. I got to talk them every once a while. So I didn’t really have a parent-child relationship. Then when I was around 10 my parents had to migrate to the states along with me. So now I am “reunited” with my parents. Apart from the fact they were too busy working all the time barely had any time for me. So I started feeling really lonely and depressed but since we lived with my grandparents I still managed to keep it covered but then one day we obviously moved out. When we moved out I started feeling even lonelier because when I got home school there was no one to talk to. There were days where I barely saw my parents because by the time they got home I was already asleep. Then all the sudden I started asking questions about identity. That was the time I needed my mom the most obviously she was never there. By this time I was in 8th grade and I found the comfort of having a mom in my counselor. My counselor meant everything to me. She was basically like my mom. She was always there for me even outside of school. Obviously not having a mom I got really attached to this counselor. I was very emotionally attached to her. She used to work at the high school. Everyone (administrators) at high school found out about this “relationship” and I was no longer allowed to be in contact with her. So then it took me till my junior year to get over this. The summer between my junior year and my senior year I met someone through online who became my “mom”. I would try to talk to her every single day. I would tell her everything that happened in the day. And at times we managed to have “heart to heart” conversations. But then I was kinda of getting little jealous when she would talk about her daughter. Then one day I started getting this vibe that I was bothering her so I stopped talking to her as well as her daughter. I deleted her off my facebook I stopped calling her I stopped texting her and everything. Then after that I met someone else at my work that was too young to my mom so she ended being my “big sister.” Now I feel like I am already bothering her. Like she is ALWAYS there for me. But then I feel like I bother her when I try to talk to her every day. Or at least on the days we are at work. I text her every now and then sometimes she replies saying a single word like lol or something but then when I don’t reply her she is like how come you never text me back. And that’s because I get mad when she doesn’t pick up her phone so that’s like my “revenge”. So that is the story of my life now the question is that I don’t know why but I feel like I get emotionally attached to people really easily and really fast especially if they are really nice to me. I hate this feeling especially when for some reason I am parted from them. I don’t know what to do. Like sometimes I just wish when I am crying that someone would come and give me a HUGE hug and tell me everything’s gonna be alright but obviously I don’t really have anyone who does that.

By the way I am 18, single and kinda some what happy

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So what could be wrong with me?
So the story starts with me being about 3 years old who lived with her parents until it was about time for me to be part of the school system. Since my parents lived where the school system Was’t so good they decided that I had to live with my aunt. So I lived with my aunt for 7 years. In those 7 years I barely got to see my parents. I got to talk them every once a while. So I didn’t really have a parent-child relationship. Then when I was around 10 my parents had to migrate to the states along with me. So now I am “reunited” with my parents. Apart from the fact they were too busy working all the time barely had any time for me. So I started feeling really lonely and depressed but since we lived with my grandparents I still managed to keep it covered but then one day we obviously moved out. When we moved out I started feeling even lonelier because when I got home school there was no one to talk to. There were days where I barely saw my parents because by the time they got home I was already asleep. Then all the sudden I started asking questions about identity. That was the time I needed my mom the most obviously she was never there. By this time I was in 8th grade and I found the comfort of having a mom in my counselor. My counselor meant everything to me. She was basically like my mom. She was always there for me even outside of school. Obviously not having a mom I got really attached to this counselor. I was very emotionally attached to her. She used to work at the high school. Everyone (administrators) at high school found out about this “relationship” and I was no longer allowed to be in contact with her. So then it took me till my junior year to get over this. The summer between my junior year and my senior year I met someone through online who became my “mom”. I would try to talk to her every single day. I would tell her everything that happened in the day. And at times we managed to have “heart to heart” conversations. But then I was kinda of getting little jealous when she would talk about her daughter. Then one day I started getting this vibe that I was bothering her so I stopped talking to her as well as her daughter. I deleted her off my facebook I stopped calling her I stopped texting her and everything. Then after that I met someone else at my work that was too young to my mom so she ended being my “big sister.” Now I feel like I am already bothering her. Like she is ALWAYS there for me. But then I feel like I bother her when I try to talk to her every day. Or at least on the days we are at work. I text her every now and then sometimes she replies saying a single word like lol or something but then when I don’t reply her she is like how come you never text me back. And that’s because I get mad when she doesn’t pick up her phone so that’s like my “revenge”. So that is the story of my life now the question is that I don’t know why but I feel like I get emotionally attached to people really easily and really fast especially if they are really nice to me. I hate this feeling especially when for some reason I am parted from them. I don’t know what to do. Like sometimes I just wish when I am crying that someone would come and give me a HUGE hug and tell me everything’s gonna be alright but obviously I don’t really have anyone who does that.

By the way I am 18, single and kinda some what happy

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Never calling them or getting involve or showing concern during their crisis.
he left when the kids where 16,15&13.I’tbeen 3 years and I usually call him to remind him about birthdays ,graduation,and other moments on their lives .he ignores the calls and ignore the events all together.I all together stop the reminders since I think he should be responsible enough to be there for them.I know they have a deep deception in their hearts.Also he has never apologize for walking out on us with out even saying good bye.How can he show somuch love and dedication while he was living with us and just ignore them once he move with another woman.they use to adore their father and now they never mention his name.
he left when the kids where 16,15&13.I’ts been 3 years and I usually call him to remind him about birthdays ,graduations,and other moments on their lives .he ignores the calls and ignore the events all together.I all together stop the reminders since I think he should be responsible enough to be there for them.I know they have a deep deception in their hearts.Also he has never apologize for walking out on us with out even saying good bye.How can he show somuch love and dedication while he was living with us and just ignore them once he move with another woman.they use to adore their father and now they never mention his name.

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Ok, so here is my situation. I have been in a relationship with my partner for about 3 years. We each have a child from a previous relationship, mine, a son who is 3, and him, a daughter who is 4.
My son has always lived with us. About one year into our relationship, my partners daughter was sent to live with us, as her mother felt she was cramping her lifestyle too much. I was apprehensive as we had problems with the child when she came for weekend visits. Now, two years later the situation has become much worse, not better. I wish I was exaggerating when I say this, but his daughter watches me constantly, and not in an admiring way, it’s in a resentful way. She glares at me when ever I touch her Dad, and if I we cuddle each other, she runs up to us and demands a hug from her Dad. Even if she’s just had a five minute cuddle from him. She only ever says Good morning to her Dad, if I speak to her, she ignores me, with a withering look on her face, then will turn to her Dad with a charming smile on her face. And yes, he is oblivious to all of this. If her Dad is giving her a cuddle or if she is sitting on her lap, she will smile at me from over his shoulder, to make sure I have seen her. Two years. Two years and she still won’t adjust. And I haven’t even started on how she is with my little boy either. He isn’t allowed to go near my partner either.
I am really stressed about this. I think the child should go back to live with her mother, but I doubt that will happen.
I am sick of not being able to even hug my partner with out her glaring at me or pushing me out the way. And every day she has a new "injury" I dont know many four years old that have sore backs, but she does. I am tired of this. I know she will never change (she is like her mother unfortuantely) but how do I get my partner to see this? He thinks she is just the greatest.
Kelsy I don’t agree that a partner should love his daughter MORE than his partner. What about equal love? I’m not just a blow in we have been together for 3 years and will be married soon. So because I am a partner and not his daughter does that mean I am not entitled to affection from him?
Cindy, if you’re only answer is that everything has to end , then I think you should keep your opinions to yourself. If you had your way obvioulsly step families wouldn’t exist, obviously because you are some kind of religious (Amercian probably) zealot. Step families are difficult, and people sometimes despair. To everyone who gave posootive and constructive, useful critisism, thank you warmly.
And Cindy, stop telling everyone you are a child psychologist, because a real child psychologist would never suggest the extremes that you have. Good day!

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I am just lost… My son just turned 3 years old, he is Autistic. He doesn’t speak and has not been potty trained. He’s also a terrible eater. I need some advice from parents that are surviving parenthood to an autistic child.
1. Is there anything I can do to get him to talk? He will say a few words, but not many. What has worked for you and your family?
2. Potty training nightmare. Since my son cannot express when he needs to go to the bathroom, how on earth are you able to potty train? We have the hit or miss method. We just place him on the potty certain times a day and just hope to god that one day he’ll figure out that he can just get up there when he needs to go. Obviously, I have failed with this overly hopeful method.
3. Eating. He is a terrible eater… For the last 2 years he has eaten the same VERY FEW items and refuses to try anything else. Chicken nuggets, fish sticks, yogurt, applesauce, french fries/tater tots.
Please… I do not want to hear anything about how unhealthy my kid is eating. I KNOW. We’ve been trying for well over a year to get him to try anything at all… ANYTHING! We put other things on his plate, he throws them on the floor. We’ve tried skipping dinner since he wont eat what is in front of him, then giving him something ‘new’ for breakfast in hopes that he’ll be hungry enough to eat it… doesn’t happen and he ends up eating what he normally eats. I don’t want to starve the child in hopes he’ll be so hungry he’ll eat whatever is in front of him. Also, no tips on making food fun. Making things into cute faces or shapes is useless and the worst advice I’ve ever received. It’s never worked and never will for me. Please, any tips!?!
I’d also like to keep this discussion open to parents of disabled children… I’ve been getting too much advice from parents with "normal" kids and those methods do not work for me and my disabled child.
I have been trying to find programs to put him into.. I really need a doctor to tell me what would be best for him. We lost our health insurance quite a while ago and have been unable to obtain insurance for him until just recently. It’s been a long battle trying to get insurance for my son, which is absurd. No child should have to go without seeing a doctor.
This is what kills me though… I do keep putting the foods in front of him, this has been going on for 2 years, not exaggerating! He refuses to touch anything else.
I mean, if I take away the foods he does eat – and if he doesn’t touch what I have provided him, without me caving in… how many meals can I skip without being a horrible parent?! I feel absolutely terrible if he skips two meals in a row, I always cave before it is his bedtime. I just couldn’t go any longer than that.
I feel so lost here… I need to find a local support group or something before my brain explodes.

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