My boyfriend pays child support to his ex-wife for both his 16-year-old daughter and his 15-year-old son, who have lived with his ex for the past 3 years (my boyfriend had custody before that, but his ex convinced the kids to come live with her when they were old enough to sign the paperwork). She and her current husband are pretty terrible parents and have let the 16-year-old daughter turn into quite a monster (cursing, screaming, drinking, etc.). The daughter hasn’t been welcome in our house in a year because of her behavior (the last time she came over, she broke a window to get in because her key was lost). My boyfriend just keeps paying his child support and keeping up a good relationship with his son, resigned to the fact that his little girl has become a mess under her mother’s care.

Well today, we learned that the daughter and the ex-wife, who fight a lot, had a MASSIVE argument, during which the daughter physically assaulted her mother. The ex-wife responded to this by kicking the daughter out of her house. The daughter left with friends, and so far, she hasn’t come to my boyfriend’s house (she probably won’t, since she doesn’t like to live with rules).

Now that his daughter is not in the ex-wife’s home, my boyfriend doesn’t want to pay his ex-wife the child support for her. He was already so upset about how his money was being used, and now he REALLY doesn’t want his ex to get it since she kicked the daughter out herself. I don’t blame him. He will continue to pay support for his son without complaint.

So what, if any, are his legal rights? We’re in Texas, by the way. Does he have to wait and see whether the daughter comes home, whether she and the mom reconcile, etc? Is there a time limit after which the daughter is considered a runaway, or on her own legally? I know the mom won’t go looking for her (well, unless she starts to fear the loss of money). I also know we’d need to get a lawyer to take all of this back to the family courts, but I wasn’t sure whether there was a precedent in this sort of case, or whether there’s a time limit on how long the daughter can be gone before the court decides she doesn’t live with the ex-wife anymore. The ex-wife won’t voluntarily sign away her custody because she wants the money. And we don’t want custody of the daughter, either, because of her behavior. We just don’t want to pay for her if she’s not there to be cared for with the funds, if that makes sense.

Does anyone have any advice/suggestion on how we should proceed? My Google searches aren’t turning up much. Thank you!

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My husbands nieces ages 12 and 15 are in a very bad situation with there parents such as drugs, alcohol, abandonment and have been dealing with it for all there lives. We had custody of them for 3 years,but under financial difficulties we had to return them due to our great state of Wisconsin does not help out with anything unless you make under so much money, regardless of what kind of bills you have. If you make too much to bad for you and the extra mouths you have to feed… anyways that’s another story.We are now able to financially take them and never give them back. We still have the house we bought for all of us to live in including our two children and we still have there beds etc. We originally got them because we were able to prove their parents were on drugs when the court ordered drug tests. Now they are hooked on pharmaceutical drugs and have been caught going to different doctors and pharmacy’s to get there drugs. Someone had mentioned the possibility of the kids divorcing their parents? What is that? whats that mean for them?
Hey Roger seems to me you have an awful lot of time on your hands to be able to get to level 4 in about 2 months you are probably one of those ones who does live off our taxes, so Shut it. We pay taxes too and we never asked for that kind of help. Not to mention it must be paid back by the parents.

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My husband and I got married at a young age. I was 17. We have been married for 12 years now, and have had 4 children. In the past 3 years, there has been no sort of intimacy, or any feeling of attraction. This has been on both our parts. Everybody in my family is upset thinking we need to work it out, and we have been trying to for 3 years. We have even gone to counseling. We have decided to get divorced and are going to talk to our children about it. Is there any advice or things we can say to help them through this? My husband and I are really good friends, and have a good relationship, we just fell out of love I guess you could say.
My children are 5, 7, 11, 12. And I agree, I don’t want them to think this is what love is. We don’t even sleep in the same room. It wasn’t something he or I ever discussed, it just happened.

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The mother and the father are still married, but the mother works/lives 3 hours away, and the father lives with the children back at home. So essentially, the father ends up taking care of the kids for 6 days out of 7 in a week. This has been the living arrangement for 3 years. Would you consider this a single parent household?

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Here is the scoop. I have been with my now EX girlfriend for 3 years. We lived together for the majority of that time.

We have had our disagreements, and she frequently asks friends and family for advice. NORMAL, I know.

However the last argument we had her step dad and mom gave her some pretty terrible advice and she decided to take it. She moved out is on her own, and is being pretty distant.

What led up to the breakup was a lot of screaming, and stress with me getting very verbally abusive. I realize now I should not have done that, but things are getting better.

Now for the question. Both my ex and I have decided to give it a second go.. But I feel whenever progress is made on my behalf she speaks to her parents and then things go downhill again.

What can I do to win back this girl without interference from her trashy family?

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Is there any good book out there that address’s a ‘big-picture’ concern of a loving Mom of a 6 year old child of divorce (been 3 years now but the father is still very spiteful, vindictive and as always very self centered and angry about having to pay child support) that can help me help my son get through all the crap to where when he is on his own he would: not be opposed to love and marriage, know the difference between right and wrong, obey laws and rules, be a considerate human to others, be morale, etc. He’s just a kid – but one day he will be a man. All to often (so I am told by my attorney), the child ends up hating his Mom, rebelling against her, becuase she was the dicilipinary & Dad was all fun and games (and spiteful towards Mom, routinely polar opposition 2 pretty much anything I have to say (i.e; Dad’s w/e exchange: I state to both child and Dad -No pool – he’s been sick for 2 days w/ high fevers and just started w/ diareah. (‘OK!’) They went to the pool 20 min later.

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I have a 10 month old son, and I’ve been considering getting a divorce, he is our only child.
our marriage is not going well lately, we don’t get along and he keeps things from me, he didn’t cheat but he just doesn’t treat me well and he does not appreciate any of the things that I do for him, we’ve only been together for 3 years and married for 2
I gave up my whole life for him mainly because he is very jealous of everything he is always thinking that other men are out to get me and I can’t even go out with my friends I even had to give up my life long hobby. he is not supportive of me in anyway and I support him in all that he does but it just doesn’t seem to be enough for him to treat me well, for even a day.
I can’t decide if I should leave him, I don’t know if that would be bad for my son would it be better if I just put up with my husband so that my son can have a better life? does divorce really mess kids minds?? even when they are this young?
I do love him I just hate feeling like I am less and he knows how to make me feel like I’m worthless, he is not willing to do anything to help this work but he does not want a divorce, it’s very frustrating.

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Can I divorce her from korea when she is in houston? We got married for the papers and she is taking too long and now I have to move on with my life. Im in the military . Can she harm me in anyway if I divorce her ( married for almost 3 years ) . Can she collect alimony after just 3 years? She lives in Houston Texas.

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Okay. I am asking a legitimate question. I am not referring to another question/answer (which is against YA rules). I am not going to respond to anyone’s answers (which is against YA rules) I am not going to made any *additions* to this question because if I am not verrrrry careful about how I *word* the additions THAT is also against YA rules.

So, back to my question. I and my 3 siblings were raised with small and large dogs. My mother was a backyard breeder (this was in the 50′s) of Dachshunds. I remember being about 3 years old and watching the b*tch whelp her pups.

I know people who have small children with dogs. All breeds, mixes, sizes etc.

What is the defining fact (?) which makes us tell people NO to small dogs? Is it the society we are living in now? Children are not supervised and/or corrected? Are the children not taught? Or are the parents oblivious?

All of the above? And more?

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I don’t know where to begin. Pathetic to have to resort to the internet for help, but I gave up most of my friends for him so no one to turn to atm! Closest friend is 4000 miles away. Well, I’m 19, a mom to a 7 month old baby boy, and I am engaged to his dad, the guy I’ve known since I was 15. He is 21. I’ve already graduated highschool, and am taking distance courses to become a holistic doctor eventually. Sounds pretty good right? I know what I want for the most part. Except him. Except for L. We fight at least twice a week. And for him, its always a contest to win. I try being civilized, telling him up front what my problem is, and his reply is…silence. I ask him, after 3 years together and birthing your child, thats the kind of respect I get? his reply…I don’t respect you. I ask him if "cleaning house, taking care of your child, leaving the work force, moving a province away from friends and family, doing the grocery shopping, – " isn’t a viable enough reason to respect me. his reply…nope. i ask him wtf his issue with me…again silence. Calls me a bitch, an idiot, a retard, tells me to fuck off go back home EVERY time we argue. I admit I’ve got a wicked temper and I don’t always control it very well, and my chronic depression gets in the way sometimes. Yet everytime we get into an argument, I’ve got a shitstorm around my head and I don’t even know what its about!!! He goes to work for 8 hours, comes home and goes straight onto WoW. doesn’t even do dishes or cooks or watches his kid. cause he thinks a teething baby is a breeze and i dont deserve a break, cause hes the only tired one around here n being tired n penniless means you cant have other hobbies.

I got one foot out the door, and then I think about the roses he gave me the one time after we fought, and the cake he bought for me, my mom, and grams on mothers day. About the poems he used to write, and the person he used to be in the first 6 months of our relationship that I never saw again. We’ve got nothing in common anymore, except for a child.

I’ve become such a weak willed dark tempered twat and everything in me is telling me to just suck it the hell up and bite my tongue so our son can have a two parent household with all the things my own absent father couldn’t provide.

Pretty much my whole dating experience is him. I don’t know what other men are like, if this is typical. The few guys I dated before him were done in a matter of three months and two of three cheated on me. Do I just attract broken men? I’ve got nothing but the best intentions for myself, yet I keep ending up in these bloody nasty situations.

Where do I go? Stay, or leave? Have faith in his good side, or have faith in bad side? Do I give up on a man that is a good friend but a horrible partner in arguments? He’s got the sex drive, I don’t cause its painful; they stitched me back up too tight post-birth n I rip every single time so I feel bad about that too. I feel like I love him more than he loves me back. But what do I know?
Yeah I know having a child isn’t exactly the epitome of wise choices, so please do excuse me for deciding the chance of life for an innocent shouldn’t be executed for the sake of my own selfish desires. It might suck the big one, but he is worth every struggle. I have faith in whomever the higher powers that be. I have faith in a better tomorrow. So adoption and abortion were inconsiderable. So sorry. And another thing. I would think asking for help so openly would be quite opposite of naive. I don’t need anyone else’s negativity, so feel free to hit the back arrow if thats all you’ve for me.

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