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Who had custody of you?

Did you ever want to live with your other parent? For example, let’s say your Mom had custody and either refused to let you or allowed you to try living with your Dad…

How did being allowed OR not being allowed to live with your other parent and experience life with him/her (assuming that they were NOT truly unfit) affect you now as an older child or adult?

Do you resent or respect the custodial parent who would not OR did let you go live with your non-custodial parent?

Thank you for your insights.

after the child is an adult? Example: would it be OK if you and your parents lived in separate states? OK for them to move out of the country? OK for you to move out of the country? OK for your kids to see their grandparents less than once a year?
live out of state from my parents for more than 20 years

im asking this again cause i only got a few answers….

Im so confused right now Im 19, Im in college, but i feel like Im getting old.. like its my last year as a teenager so i feel like when i turn 20 i should be an adult but i honestly don’t think im ready, i want to keep cutting up and hanging with my friends and play games…stuff like that. I still live with my parents, and i have this feeling like i should move out and get my own house cause i owe it to them.
what should i do?
i just wanna be a kid but is it immature if i am or is that normal for a 19 year old????
its just really wierd and uncomfortable

Im so confused right now Im 19, Im in college, but i feel like Im getting old.. like its my last year as a teenager so i feel like when i turn 20 i should be an adult but i honestly don’t think im ready, i want to keep cutting up and hanging with my friends and play games…stuff like that. I still live with my parents, and i have this feeling like i should move out and get my own house cause i owe it to them.

what should i do? i just wanna be a kid but is it immature if i am or is that normal for a 19 year old????
its just really wierd and uncomfortable

Why do you dislike their spouse and what is it that prevents you from trying to be a functional family so that the grandkids can have a normal family?
I have 1 daughter-in-law and I cannot imagine treating her the way my father-in-law has treated me. He ended the relationship with me and his son because I said he was being obnoxious. It has been over a year and now he accuses me of all kinds of things that are not true. I cannot understand how a grown adult parent could act like such a jerk. I realize that I am only seeing things through my own eyes, but I just can’t understand why he thinks his behavior is ok.

Hi, I’m fifteen and I want my hair shorter. My hair is pretty thick and long right now, so I want it cut, but unfortunately i have ears that kind of stick out and make me look kind of goofy. I probably shouldn’t care what other people say, but it’s more of a personal thing and beyond that. So I hear the only truly good method of fixing this problem is to get otoplasty surgery. I think this would be a good idea, considering it’s fairly cheap in surgical terms and is a pretty simple procedure and you don’t have to be put out for it. So the only problem I have is talking to my parents about it. It’s something I’ve had to deal with since i was pretty young. I don’t want them to just say accept yourself the way you are, especially when there is something I can do about it. I just need to convince them to let me get the surgery and show them how important it is to me. And they have always said they liked my hair shorter. Please help, I need talking advice! Thanks!
I want it now, not when I’m an adult. Oh and it’s not all about the haircut

Some people decide to adopt a baby and never let the child know that they didn’t give birth to them.

A woman may have split up with her husband so the baby doesn’t remember who their father is, and throughout life the child knows the mom’s new husband as "daddy".

Do you think children should know about this early on (as soon as they are able to physically/mentally comprehend), or do you believe they should find out as an adult when childhood’s over?

I’m an adult (in my late 30′s). How do I get/start a relationship with my father which has been strained since my parents divorced when I was in my early 20′s?

He and I have really nothing in common.

He’s also "found Jesus" (I didn’t realize that He was lost), and feels the need to "save" me. He also has a difficult time with me being Gay. The only reason that he’s coming to our reception party, is b/c my brother basically told him that he has to. My dad wasn’t real excited when I told him that I was getting married (to another woman).

I want to try and have a relationship with him before it’s too late. When I was a child, I was daddy’s little girl, but all that changed after my parents divorced.

Please help with ideas or suggestions.

Also, I don’t need anyone else preaching to me about how being gay is "bad" and the whole "being saved" non-sense. Your answers will be reported if they do not answer the question.
My dad & I have already had the religious ‘go around’. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmuQT5TnjBQOF2iJIqJzl0jty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080104072006AAiZaY5

Also, my dad is over 2 hours away and I hardly ever see him. He couldn’t even send me a b-day card last week!
I am a believer. I do believe in God. I was raised Catholic and went to church every Sunday with my family. What I’m getting at is that my dad is not the one to save me. That’s why Jesus died… but I don’t want this question to get too religious.

I was abused mentally and physically for most of my childhood by my mother and step-father. My mother told me I was sexually molested at a very young age, but failed to report it because it was a family member. She was abused by her parents as well.

I worked on a civil relationship with my parents to keep peace after I had two children. Although I never really trusted them to babysit, I would visit on holidays and so forth.

I look at my children now and could never concieve the thought of hurting them… I wonder what in my parents mind made it so easy for them to hurt me repeatedly? So I ask them just a simple question *why*? All the sudden it is my fault that I can’t let things go… I need therapy (which I had for years) and they are the victims. They can’t understand why I would ask these questions… my sisters who were brought up without abuse are siding with them as well.

Has anyone ever been in this situation ?
I tried to talk to them and find out *why* but they don’t eant to own up to it. Instead my mother says that she can’t handle talking about it anymore and that I am never satisfied with a "I’m sorry"…

I already forgave her, I just want to know why? I could never hurt my kids, I feel like a monster if I yell at them.

People make mistakes. As an adult, that means you also have own up to the responsibility that comes with mistakes. I don’t see why that is such a hard question for my folks.

Alright, I need someone to proofread my essay because I have nobody to do it. Please! Alright, its about the effect of divorce on children. If there is any grammatical errors, PLEASE tell me!!! PLEASE!!!! PLEASE READ MY ESSAY

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A CHILD’S SEPERATION
I grew up with the dream of being married to my Prince Charming and to live happily ever after. That was the basic American Cinderella story for most young girls. Sadly, there is no living happily ever after a divorce. The word divorce means an official ending of a marriage by the court. When a parent divorces, the cause probably was: incessant fight, uncontrollable anger, a partner cheating, drinking problems, money issues, abuse and gambling. Almost half of all marriages in the United States end in a divorce. In a divorce, there are no winners. Everyone, especially the children, is affected. Many children of divorce may suffer from fear of abandonment, hostility between parents, and loss of attachment.
Fear of abandonment plays a huge role in producing a child emotional problem. When a parent is not in a child’s life, they fear that they are going to lose another parent. For instance, the child may feel as if the divorce is their fault. They feel that if they tried harder getting good grades and stop the arguments, then they could have prevented the divorce. Despite how many times an adult say “it’s not your fault,” anger and hostility arises towards others.
After a divorce, the parents may feel compelled to be civil in front of their children. Arguments over the phone or face-to-face may cause children to feel responsible and sad. Usually, one parent would talk about the other parent harshly. While doing so, the parent is forcing the poor child to take sides. Choosing which parent to live with is the hardest thing for a child. When a child chooses which parent to live with, the relationship with the other parent is severely damaged.
Separation from family, friends, and pets can cause loss of attachment. This usually causes distress among young children. Children may no longer have that old contact with friends and family members. Nothing can replace that child’s cousin, father, best friend, mother and etc. A child is most likely to open up their problems to their closest family member or best friend. If the child has to move for personal or financial reasons, then most likely the child would feel sad and overwhelmed.
Separation from family, friends, and pets can cause loss of attachment. This usually causes distress among young children. Children may no longer have that old contact with friends and family members. Nothing can replace that child’s cousin, father, best friend, mother and etc. A child is most likely to open up their problems to their closest family member or best friend. If the child has to move for personal or financial reasons, then most likely the child would feel sad and overwhelmed.
Sorry that was an accident. I repeated it by accident.
Divorce can be brutal for most children. They might feel as if their dreams are shattered and their ideal family is broken. A divorce may be the only panacea to the constant bickering from parents. If both parents are happy, then the child is happy. Therefore, a divorce doesn’t always have to be bad. It actually depends on the parents and the cause of the divorce.