The kids are 12 and 16!
I am apalled, shocked, and dumfounded that the overwhelming opinion of the ‘experts’, meaning state employees of the family services, court judges, and lawyers all agree that kids this age should have no say in visitation schedules! The words were – kids do as the parents say, and the parents do what the court says. This means they go to the house they are told, sleep where they are told, visit where they are told, including holiday and weekend schedules. We are not allowed to even discuss it… which is almost impossible since, of course, the kids alway tell me… I want stay here today, or I want to visit there.
Can someone explain this thinking of no child involvement, particularly for kids this age? Also, what is the opinion of kids this age? Also are there any adults who were children of divorce whom were raised "3 days here and four days there:?
Child services says kids "love two homes" and ‘knowing where they have to be". Doesn’t make sense to me! Seems like kids, especially at these ages, need some acknowledgement and inclusion in the discussions… and doesn’t living in two homes feel like always living out of a suitcase and having no real ‘home’?
Please enlighten me! Really, I’m perplexed.
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