im an A* student, & i have been predicted 8 A*’s in my gcse’s which i will be sitting in may this year. i work hard at school and try to achieve to make them happy. yet, theyre never satisfied. theyre constantly engrossed in my brothers achievements and i never get so much as a well done. I also try to help around the house, and im always offering to do odd jobs just to make them appreciate me a bit more, but it seems the more i do, the more further they get from me. im scared that in a few years time, i will lose contact with my brother, mum & dad if we carry on like this ..please don’t tell me to discuss it with them, because it isn’t that easy, it’s just something i can’t do .
But all isn’t bad, i have some amazing friends who try and help me lots. Im very thankful to them all for being there, but none of them actually understand as they go home to such loving families. please help

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My mother, who is a fairly recent convert to Christianity, lost her job. I let her stay with me, rent free, in my home, and she desecrated my altar room (twice) and destroyed several things I hold dear that cannot be replaced, including a table made for me by my deceased father.

We went to counseling, and decided to live apart. I’ve been putting her up in a hotel since then, but the money needed for that and my bills is causing strain on me, to the point where grocery money is going toward her bills.

Apparently none of her church members are willing to take her in, believing she should stay with me and "be an example of the Lord’s love" to quote her.

I can’t put my mother out with no where to go, but I can’t afford to keep her in a hotel either. I keep my altar room locked, but she got in there before after it was locked.

I really don’t know what to do.
I do owe her for my life and raising me, but where we once lived together in peace, but now the constant fighting and passive aggressive behaviour and disregard to my things make it hard for me to handle, that’s why we chose (together) that a hotel would be better, but money is becoming an issue.
I’m not trolling, in fact, it was suggestions here on R&S that suggested a hotel and counseling. That’s why I came here to ask with this latest problem.
She’s trying to find a job, (I think) but she’s disabled and was working at the same place for thirty years before they fired her, so I don’t know.
The key to my altar room I kept in my jewelery box, she must have found it. It’s not about my personal possessions so much as m religious items that are very important to me. I would not destroy her statues or her Bible the way she did to my things, and that table was the only thing I had from my father.

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I have an (almost year old boy. At times, he’s a handful. I fully admit that. I’m not in denial even the least little bit. I went to parent/teacher conferences yesterday and, for the 3rd time, the teacher mentioned having him put on mediaction. I am not interested in that because I simply believe he’s not a candidate for that. He makes all A’s. He’s in the top of his class. He’s not like a child genious or anything, but he’s like a sponge in the way he absorbs information! His teacher actually told me she’s going to have him put in the GT (gifted & talented ) program.

THe reason I believe he’s not in need of Ridalin (spelling??) is because he most certainly CAN be controlled. He’s very capable of sitting still for hours at a time, and he CAN keep his thoughts/ comments to himself.
The teacher says his main problem is talking out of turn & a constant non-stop yacking. I think he stays on her nerves most of the day, but I cannot justify putting him on medication just because he likes to talk.

So, can someone who has a child in this position please explain to me what the signs/symptoms are of a child who is, or needs to be medicated? I may be wrong and if I am, I’m wanting to do plenty of research.

*edited to add*…..

And please know that I’m not asking this question in a judgemental or snarky tone. It’s just a question. I would hate to offend anyone. I know he has a problem w/ keeping his mouth shut and I know he’s not a "mild" kid. He is on the hyper side, but in my opinion, he’s not any more hyper than any of the other boys in his class. And, yes, I do know, I’ve subbed for the teacher before.
wow, thanks for the overwhelming resonses so far. And thanks for the compliments.

Just to be a little more clear. I know she can’t put him on ritalin. She was suggesting that a lot of parents would have already put their kid on ritalin if they had acted the way my son acts. This was yesterday and the 3rd time. The first 2 times she just mentioned it to see how I would react. She has been a teacher for more years than I’ve been alive and I’m 28 years old.
She just says she gets frusterated at him because she tells him over and over again to stop talking and leave the other kids alone. ‘

My son says that he gets done with all his work earlier than a lot of the other kids, so the fact that he’s probably bored makes a whole lot of sense.

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I’m 19, and very creative, athletic & smart. But School is not for me. I got my GED & tryed community college, and I can’t stand it. For work, everywhere I go & apply, they shoot me down, because I don’t have any work expierence & a GED. My Parents are getting tired of me not being able to make money. If I get kicked out I’ll be homeless at 19. I don’t want that to happen. does anyone have advice for me?

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Like these prime specimen:

who burn verses of the quran into their baby every week and are praised as "miraculous"

(boy oh boy what I would do to those people if I had a moment alone with them)
Amir: people that go along with this horrifying child abuse because they pop a major bone thinking it proves their religion should be flogged

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I’m so tired of all of this.. The whole thing…I honestly don’t think I deserve this punishment of staying home all the time.. It’s making me gain weight & I’ve lost my tan & really I’m just so unhappy.. I have no idea what to do.. I lost all my friends.. Lara is always busy & well Missy.. My sister doesn’t trust me with her.. I get why but I think I’ve changed a lot through out my life & I think she should trust me around her, I’ve learned my lesson.. My mom is always saying that if I do something really bad that she’ll send me to brazil so I’m kind of thinking of something to do.. Hopefully not too bad but I just really need to go there.. that’s the only time I’m truly happy & that I’m not LOCKED up in my house.. I don’t feel like this is my home I feel like this is a PRISON.. I get it they’re doing this because they care about me… but locking me up doesn’t make it up.. I feel like a young girl with an unfulfilled teenage hood.. You’re only a teen once & I feel like my parents are stripping it away from me… & it’s really not even my mom but its my dad.. I guess he did so many bad things when he was younger he just goes crazy thinking we’re like him.. & we’ll do the same bad things as he did.. People have called me ungrateful, spoiled, and down right a bitch because I have parents who love me… but what is the point of being loved if you can’t feel it or experience it.. Since I never leave my house, I never meet new people which means boyfriends.. & I believe there should be a balance in parent hood… not too strict but not too liberal either.. I wish my family had that balance.. My cousin met her bf when she was 17 and now she’s 23 they’re still together.. If this stays like this for a long time.. I’m going to end up a lonely cat lady & where are my parents love going to be then? They’ll probably be dead.. No offense & as for me.. I’ll probably be lonely.. I don’t know what my future has to hold for me.. & I might be only 16 but my sister is 18, almost 19 & my parents treat her the same way they treat me.. I honestly don’t know what to do.. I neeed advice but really I just wanted someone to talk to.. Someone to express myself to…thanks I appreciate it..
So today I ask to go to the movies, 15 mins away with my 18 year old sister & he says no. I have been home for 2 almost 3 weeks straight!!! The only time I ever leave is when I go to walk my dog. I honestly don’t even know what to do anymore. I’ve tried talking to them but my father is just way too ignorant to listen. Everyone outside my family thinks he is just the BEST father figure ever but really, he’s not. This is supposed to be my home, NOT A PRISON. If he just once turned to me & said "hey HUN(which he would never just be that nice) you can’t go because we’re short on money" I DON’T KNOW, ANY EXCUSE BUT HE JUST SAYS NO WITH NO FUCKI*G EXCUSE! I ASK HIM WHY & WELL HE SAYS "JUST CAUSE" & I tried talking to him I said "dad.. I’ve been home for about 3 weeeks now.. why can’t I go? Daniella will go with me.." his answer was "I said no! thats that, & just cause you insisted you won’t go out for the next 2 weeks, and if you cry about it, you’ll be grounded for the next month" & of cour

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My dad & stepmom want me to change my attitude toward life. I’m 19. They’re letting me live with them while I commute to my college. They say I do a good job doing chores & paying for all my stuff, but they claim I have a negative attitude. They think I’m self-righteous because I don’t have friends or a girlfriend. They don’t like my tone when I speak to them. They get mad when they have company over, & I never speak to them. They say I need to be more respectful, or I will have to move out soon. I feel like I obey my parents just fine. Everyone thinks I’m spoiled though. I don’t think I’m self-righteous like my parents think. I don’t have friends because I have strict morals in life that noone my age follows. I don’t have a girlfriend because I’m too nice. I don’t know how to be a jerk. So how can I show my parents that I can be respectful? I don’t feel like moving out right now. Thank you for your advice. God Bless

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I am considering moving to arizona to start fresh, and i have to little boys (2yrs & 3mos). I want to find a very good city with excellent schools & low crime rates.

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Ok so his parents and me don’t exactly get on ive never been rude or fallen out with them they just don’t like me. but my boyfriend doesn’t help when we argue he slags me off on facebook and obviously they see. and think the worse of me. makes it worse because they adore his brothers girlfriend and cant do enough for her. and she calls them mum and dad and shes only 16!
ive tried with them but they just politely smile and carry on with what their doing & ive even offered to meet them for lunch one day with my boyfriend but they said no!
ive tried talking to him about it but apparently its my fault they don’t like me because i don’t try
its getting stupid now seeing as ive been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years!

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