My just turned 6yo son said to me yesterday…. Mummy why do you say penis when its a doodle? so i explained to him that there are many names but the correct word is penis…. So while on the topic i thought i might have our first little talk so i said to him "Do you know the correct name of a girls parts?" he said yes its a Vagina… i was a little shocked but ok with it cause we have not had this talk before with him….

He then said to me "That’s where babies come out of the mummy" i said how do you know that and he said that one of the girls in his class told his teacher that babies come out of a little hole in the vagina. So his teacher sat down and told his class that when a man marries a women they will "make love" and have a baby then the baby grows inside eggs in the mummy’s belly then when the baby has finished growing then the baby pushes down really hard and comes out of the mummy’s vagina…. Then he said she told them how a mummy’s vagina can open really big to let the baby out…..

Now i know none of what she told them was wrong but i dont think a teacher should be telling a class of 20 kindergarten kids about these things… My husband and i were looking forward to this talk with our son and we would have been very age appropriate as we need to be…. We spoke about this with his older brother…. His 10yo brother knows everything he needs to know about sex and how babies are made but we told him in stages when we thought he was ready and even now we continue to make sure he remembers everything and we wanted to tell our younger son by the same method when he is ready plus we dont believe in telling our children that you need to be married to have sex or have children, because you can still have sex and get a girl pregnant without marriage and dont want our kids learning different than that.

Do you think his teacher is wrong here, should she have told the kids because i thought she should have sent them home to ask us… i feel like she has taken something away that i wont have the chance to do again… plus i wasnt ready for him to know just yet am i wrong for feeling this way? what are your thoughts? i dont know whether to confront her because she is a wonderful teacher who also taught my eldest in kindy but i feel really ROBBED….
I know this is the wrong area but i wanted genuine opinions of married people and parents alike…
@kira- we would have spoke to him soon about some things but then take it up in levels as he gets older, we started talking to our eldest when he was 7 and its a graduale process, not all at 10yo. so we kept ahead of the curve so to speak…..

@Linda G- funny you say that because she has no kids but she has been a kindergarten teacher for a long time, she is about 55yo i think
@Art – we have always answered any questions they have asked us, we believe in telling them when they are ready or need to know, so if they are asking questions we answer, we began telling him before he asked questions then he began to ask questions as time went by to which we have always answered…..
@Trixilicious – i am not a troll i am asking a genuine question…. This was my Husbands account before mine so maybe get your facts right before slinging up stuff you know nothing of…

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My just turned 6yo son said to me yesterday…. Mummy why do you say penis when its a doodle? so i explained to him that there are many names but the correct word is penis…. So while on the topic i said to him "Do you know the correct name of a girls parts?" he said yes its a Vagina… i was a little shocked but ok with it cause we have not had this talk before with him….

He then said to me "Thats where babies come out of the mummy" i said how do you know that and he said that one of the girls in his class told his teacher that babies come out of a little hole in the vagina. So his teacher sat down and told his class how when a man marries a women they will make love and have a baby then the baby grows inside eggs in the mummy’s belly then when the baby has finished growing then the baby pushes down really hard and comes out of the mummy’s vagina…. Then he said she told them how a mummy’s vagina can open really big to let the baby out…..

Now i know none of what she told them was wrong but i dont think a teacher should be telling a class of 20 kindergarten kids about these things… My husband and i were looking forward to this talk with our son and we would have been very age appropriate as we need to be…. We spoke about this with his older brother…. His 10yo brother nows everything he needs to know about sex and how babies are made and i wanted to tell our younger son as well when he was ready…

Do you think his teacher is wrong here, should she have told the kids because i thought she should have sent them home to ask us… i feel like she has taken something away that i wont have the chance to do again… plus i wasnt ready for him to know just yet am i wrong for feeling this way? what are your thoughts? i dont know whether to confront her because she is a wonderful teacher who also taught my eldest in kindy but i feel really ROBBED….
@Melyssa – i agree with teaching them periodically as this is what we did with our eldest…. now he knows all he needs to know… but we still discuss these things with him occassionally to make sure he hasnt forgot plus to re-inforce what he already knows…. sure i know my 6yo will not be scarred or anything but i was not ready to start discussing in that much detail yet and i dont think its anyones right to but mine….

@everyone who doesnt like the saying "Kindy" that is actually the class name at the school and is commonly used as the name for kindergarten in Australia…. dont know about everywhere else…. My son is in class Kindy green, thats the name and there is also Kindy yellow

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I posted this a moment ago, but would like to elaborate on a few things:

I was raised in a Christian home, and it honestly never felt right with me. I was too deep of a thinker to just blindly accept that some all mighty being created us in 7 days because he ‘felt like it.’ That being said, I do not judge those who follow the Christian faith, nor do I judge anyone who follows any other religion. I have a open mind and open heart when it comes to all people. I don’t judge anyone based on their religion or race. In fact, I try to not judge anyone until I’ve had the time to get to know them, and their personality and morals.

I raise my children to accept humans as humans, and to not pass judgments until they have met them and formed an opinion based on the facts they have learned. Assuming you know something about someone simply by the clothes they wear, the color of their skin, the tattoos or piercings they may or may not have, or the religion they choose to follow, or any other insignificant factor, is arrogant and rude. When they come to me with a question, I try to answer as honestly as I can while making sure I can back up everything I say with facts. For example, when they asked where humans (babies) come from, I explained the reproductive system as the source of human life. When they asked who made humans, I encouraged them to research online about evolution, religion and other theories and beliefs on the subject. I try to teach them to become educated on the subjects they don’t understand, rather than pushing my own beliefs on them. If they ask what I believe, then of course I will answer them, but I don’t expect them share my same thoughts and ideas.

So, a question to all you parents out there, how do you approach the topic of religion and judging people to your children? Do you teach them to be open minded, or do you have another opinion on the subject? Just curious

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but that the men get to go back out there and make more fatherless babies. Is there law out there to prevent this cylce? These irresponsible men need to be accountable too for what they’ve created. Not getting off the hook!

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I didn’t really know how to word this question. But I was wondering how the love changed from looking at a child, to that child being your own. I am pregnant and I absolutely love babies and toddlers. But once they get into elementary school and middle school I don’t know if I can handle them anymore because my tolerance is low and I’m just not a kid person.

I’m 18 (which I consider MYSELF a kid still) and am seriously concerned about raising a child. Family means everything to me and I know I would get through it because I will always put my child first. But lately I’ve had second thoughts about putting it up for adoption even though my mother said she would raise it if needed. But i’d rather have it go to a loving normal family than being raised by grandparents.

I know it’s my decision, but any advice or wisdom you could shed on me? I’m not ready to make the decision, and just need as much guidance as I can get :/

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more than men?

Why do most people think that?

I have a friend who happens to be a guy and he really loves babies. Who came up with the idea that women like raising children more than men?
No dude, he seriously almost made me cry!

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There are many couples who would make excellent parents, but they cannot reproduce: my wife and I are in that boat. Yet, I hear about these nuts who have children, then treat them like garbage by beating them to death or selling their babies for crack. It boggles my mind. I’ve raised children before and was not a perfect father; however, I did not treat my children like mundane trash. Maybe this question mirrors the old query, "why do bad things happen to good people?"

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Long story shortened best as I can: I have a daughter in California who lives with her Grandmother. Until about 18 months ago I had no idea she even existed. But now that I know I am trying to step up the way a man should.

Please forgive me for making this sound so impersonal. I am trying save feelings by not using any names.

While I was dating the mother she had explained to me that her mother had never let her do things around the house, and refused to teach her how to do these things. Basically handicapping her and insuring that the daughter would be dependent on her for a very long time.

Well when the daughter finally rebelled and decided that she was old enough to make her own decisions, Mom kicked her out. Leaving her a social cripple. Well the girl had no skills and was fully female in design. Before she met me had already made 2 babies.

Here’s the kicker!! Since she had no parenting skills, and no means to support the childred, Her mother raised the grandchildren. And so the cycle continues. My ex-girlfriend, the Mother of these children, had no control over this situation, and could not get the children back.

This is so much more that simply being an over-protective parent. It’s as if this woman feels like if her children, or grand children never grow up, then she will never grow old.

Now she has MY daughter and has has her for 18+ years and is refusing to let her mature past the emotional age of 12 or 13.

I WANT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAUGHTER!!! But this Witch has her deadlocked and under her control!

Sad part of it is, Now this control freak has my own mother thinking that this is the right thing to do!
Important to note I know that I could have done something a few years ago but now the girl is 19 years old and I having trouble finding someone who will understand that while she is an adult, and can make her own decisions, she is trapped the emotionally.

I know that there is a technical name for this syndrome. It is not Munchausens by proxy, but there has to be a name for this. If I can nail that down, I may be able to find a group that deals with this condition specifically.

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Basically, they’re completely inappropriate in my eyes. I grew up in a conservative household where I was taught to respect my elders and be polite to everyone; however, my husband was brought up very different. Neither of us fit in with them, but we are nervous when we have kids. I don’t even think I would trust his dad or brother to hold our baby, much less play with him or her. I don’t even see how I could leave our baby over there, seeing as how they smoke IN the house and it smells awful. How in the world are we supposed to manage this? I don’t want our baby developing asthma or picking up on curse words. It’s just not a great environment over there. And I can’t ask people to change. How do I handle this?
The reason I said I’m nervous about them holding a baby is because they’re rough with the little dog that they have and when we take our little dogs over there, they play too rough. They make the dog do back flips, hold them down to cut the hair inbetween their eyes, and grab them hard on the back to make them growl and attack each other. (That happened once before I interfered). I know it sounds silly but I don’t feel like I can say anything. I’ve seen them with babies and they aren’t the most careful people. My husband’s brother is very rough and his parents let him do whatever he wants. He’s 20 so it’s not like I can really do much.
I mean, I’m not crazy. I know our kids will eventually be exposed to life and I can’t protect them forever, but with motherly instincts already, I want to keep my baby safe. Cigarette smoke is harmful and handling the baby rough can be harmful. I don’t think I could trust them alone with my baby. The cussing is definitely something that I will just have to explain to our children and tell them they are not allowed to say those words. I will obviously let our kids be a part of their lives, but I don’t see how the relationship could continue unsupervised. I guess you have to cross those bridges when you get there.

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