I ask this because we have one on the way and don’t know what to expect. I babysat and such in my younger days (in my 20s now), but I feel like it will be different somehow when it is my own child. Fiance has noo experience with babies! lol

I know it’s a lot of work allllllll the time, but is it really rewarding? What’s it like? I know it seems like a stupid question, but I only have one perspective of the parent-child relationship (my own, as from when I was a child)! Nice answers only please.Thanks

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was there ever a society/civilization/tribe/group of humans that established another system?
I know i have read somewhere that all the members of some tribes of some islands- maybe in the pacific ocean, not sure though – used to take care of all the babies/children as if they were their own…
are there many worldwide organizations or groups of intellectuals who defend this kind of system? does it have an specific name?
I don´t know about you guys, but this "alternative system"(where everybody is responsible for all the kids) is a lot more reasonable than leaving the kids in the hands of 2 persons who can do pretty much whatever they want with them…(hitting the child at their will, punishing as much as they want, denying anything, etc….)
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"The parents, who are in love in some way, can come together and collaborate on how to raise the child."

yeah, that actually words, but only in the perfect world!!!!

"If anyone and everyone else is involved then lots of different methods will be brought upon the child’s raising. It will only confuse them."

how do you know that? human beings are pretty smart and creative, they can actually figure out a way to avoid doing that… everybody can work together – psychologists, sociologists, etc…-

But I also don’t agree with parents being able to do whatever they want like hitting…anyone who sees something dangerous should report it right away.

unfortunally that´s not aways the case… what about the children who are being systematically hit, raped, starved, sold( to slavery, ….) ?
nope, we can´t just forget about them, they are our brothers, they are as human as we are

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Is it better for children to have the influences of a modern thinking couple from one of our big cities that are graduates of a University or is it better to have a simply country family raise your babies.

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Or as Oprah likes to say: "the hardest job in the world"??

Because I think its very easy. I don’t know how any woman can say its sooooo difficult, unless of course, one has a special needs child, but I’ve found those mothers the least likely to complain.
Usually its women with a working husband, with one or two children, who presents this harrased, tired, timepoor strung out image, and complains loudly how hard it is to be a mother.

I would like to tell men & childless people its not hard at all. If you have a healthy child, labour is as hard as it gets. Babies are EXTREMELY easy to care for too, in spite of what some people will have you believe…..
I have raised 3 step children & now I am raising my own 3 children.
I can’t imagine being "frazzled" unless I somehow did the job so poorly I had no handle on the situations that arise….which isn’t the case. Its easy.
Spanx, Ive never been married. I was single whilst raising my first two kids. I dont rely on men for support. Stop pretending its hard work.

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I have tocophobia. I’ve been having nightmares about childbirth and having children since I was about 12. I was never meant to have a bf who wanted children. I’ve ALWAYS been upfront from the moment we start dating that I don’t want children and that I have a condition. I told my bf the second day we started seeing each other that it’s not something I wanted and that I couldn’t keep a baby if I got pregnant . He just told me we’d talk about it when the time comes and I stupidly left it at that. I’m 23 and he’s 30.

I know he wants kids.. but the thought makes me (quite literally) sick to my stomach. Just the other day I mentioned how impressed I was that we were responsible and didn’t have kids yet and he looked at me and said "I don’t want kids when I’m old. Even if we had a baby now, I’ll be 50 when they graduate. I want kids when I’m young. People always tell me how good of a person I am and the thought of me not passing down my genetics makes me feel like I have no purpose. I want kids, I’m just waiting for you to want them." It kills me to hear him say that. It’s not that I don’t want children necessarily, I just don’t want to bear them. I love his nephews, I’d take one of them in a heart beat.. but the whole pregnancy thing terrifies me. I can’t hold babies or I feel sick, if I look at pregnant woman I feel sick, if I am a day late on my period I become excessively worrisome, if some weird thing starts happening with my body that I’m unsure of- I’m on the internet checking to make sure it’s not a sign of pregnancy .. since this talk I’ve been loosing sleep and I’ve been more paranoid then ever. I’m scared he’d poke a hole in the condom or something, cause he really wants one. I don’t know what to do. I told him if he wants children we really need to talk and he says he avoids it like the plague because he can tell I don’t want kids because of how I talk about other peoples babies, or make comments about how they make me feel ill.

I would love to adopt a kid, that’d be nice, or maybe even have his sperm and my egg put in a surrogate mom but he says no. He wants me to have it. I love him, but I’m scared that if it came down to it he’ll leave me, or I’ll accidentally get pregnant and I wont be able to come to terms with it. I know it’s an irrational fear but I really feel like I’m going to die, or that I won’t love the baby.

In my nightmares I’m pregnant and I’m going to die, or I’m in excruciating pain, or in the one recurrent dream- I wake up in the dream and find I have a kid but I don’t care about them, or I forgot about them and someone has to explain to me that it’s mine, and then I fall asleep in the dream and wake up again and it happens all over again, I forget about them.

This is all so real to me. A part of why I think I may have this fear is because of my gender disphoria.. but I’m not sure. I just can’t picture myself ever birthing children.. I don’t think it’s fair that he never has children but I also think it is unfair that he is unwilling to compromise. Why do I have to carry the baby? He says one day he’ll just give up on having children cause he’s getting older, I don’t want that for him. I love him and I know he loves me. I’m not ready for any of this, I’m so young- I always thought if I did get the courage to have children I wanted to wait till I was 25 or 26.

He says he’s not even sure he can have children. He was once married and he said the only time he made someone pregnant, they got really sick. They bled the whole pregnancy until the baby was rejected by the body.. I told him he wasn’t helping the situation by telling me that and he said to me "You think that’s terrifying I had to go through it."

How am I suppose to feel about this?.. I am really lost and this irrational fear is becoming more and more of a problem. On the 14th of next month I’m going to the doctor to ask about getting an IUD because the paranoia is starting to effect my sex drive.. Somebody please help me.. :’(

P.S. This is not a case of someone being immature or someone that doesn’t deserve to have children one day, it’s a real condition, please don’t troll me, I feel like a monster as is..

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No smart, sane, or rational person want to double their workload by bringing babies or children into their lives.

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It seems like a lot of celebrities marry and have children at well past 30. They seem to marry and divorce quickly after. And when they do have babies, most of them are born out of wedlock.

Anyone know why?

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I have to set in motion a plan to care for my three small children if I should suddenly die. I am in good health, but that could change, and I will be 62 this year and am worried about my babies. They are 6 year old twin boys i have raised from birth, and a 7 year old grandaughter i have raised since she was 3 months. My son and his wife say they will take and care for them, but shouldn’t I set up something legal like a trust or something? I am a member of Grandparents Raising grandchildren, but I also work 5 days a week and have been unable to attend their meetings. Have any suggestions, this has been in the back of my mind for years, it seems I have just been afraid to address this most important issue.

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My friend is 7 months pregnant. She was abused as a child and wants to know if that will affect her and the relationship with her children. She is having twins btw and she is happily married..
She is ADD and OCD. I don’t know if that will effect her and the babies?

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