I am a stay-at-home mom and am divorcing my alcoholic husband. At present, the alimony & child support I will receive won’t be enough to continue caring for my son full-time. I’ll have to put him in daycare 9 hours a day to make ends meet (I DON’T want to do that!).
Here is the question…My husband is being considered for a new job where he will make ,000 more per year! If I wait to file for divorce until he starts this new job, will I receive more in child support and alimony? I wonder mainly because we’ve been separated for 4 months and I don’t know if the courts will look at his income at the time of separation or at the time the divorce is filed.
I know some nasty person is going to call me money grubbing, but this is ALL about avoiding putting my young son in daycare all day long when he’s used to being at home with me. I’ll be working full-time as soon as he’s in regular school.
Thanks!

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Hello everyone,
Ok, in Feb 09′ my sons father ( we were never married ) & I settled at mediation after I filed for child support at Attorney General office -Texas. The order gave him visitation rights for every other weekend. he worked offshore for many weeks to months at a time and rarely saw him living 5 miles apart. I as custodial parent had No Geographical Restrictions. So, when I was offered a job in Florida, I leaped with faith and moved with my son. I abided by all the instructions given by Attorney Generals office, changing employer info & changed of residence info to state case registry and attorney general office. I sent him a certified letter stating that I was moving to Florida, in which he received prior to me knowing my actual physical address since i was unsure if I got the place I was looking into. So the certified letter just said the city & states I was moving to. Yet, once it was confirmed I got the place I wrote it down for him, along with my employer, on a piece of paper while I went to his home to let him visit with my son. Now he has used that against me stating that I never gave him the address of where I was living. Which is false because he knows the address, my employer address and telephone #, and my sons daycare info.It was a quick move so I could give much notice but I did as much as I could with the time allowed.
He is claiming that he doesnt know if I carry insurance for our son since he is ordered to pay for the insurance, yet I gave him the original insurance card & I use an old issued one. He is throwing so many allegations, from me being intimate with someone else, to talking bad about him in front of our son, to consuming alchohol & using drugs. I am barely getting settled in Florida & have a 3 year old, how can I date? Either way we arent together, so I can never move on & get involved in a relationship? I have no reason to talk bad about him in front of my son, since he is never around nor calls so I have nothing to say about him! The big whoop is that do not even drink! I
There is so much more but my main concern is that I opened a case in Florida for child support & it is still in the process. State of Tx recommended I opened a case in Florida since I resided there so if we had to go to court he would have to go to Florida versus me going to Texas. Since he complained about the drive and never offered to go to Florida, I came to visit family for my sons birthday and allowed my son to stay the night with his father since we were in town & he hadn’t seen him. When I go to retrieve him, that is when they give me these legal forms for modification of our child support order! It hurst because I was trying to be kind and let my son see his father because i want him so much to be a part of my sons life since I did not have my father in mine. Yet, he does this. He is selfish and a very sneaky con, has a way withwords and I have always been threatened by him since he financially is set, he makes 4 times as much as me yet is never in town, works offshore months at a time!
He can afford an attorney, I cannot. Is there court appointed attorney for revisements and modifications such as these?
How long can I delay this since I live out of town & just started a new job in Florida ( a big part of the reason why I moved) and I cannot risk taking off work.
How can I defend myself?
What should I do to proove these allegations are false? Since it is my word against his & he has $$ for a lawyer.
He wants to make me move back to his county, if not make me pay for the visitation trips, which HE is suppose to in our original order.How can I avoid both Geographical restrictions on myself & paying for his visit.
He also is trying to stop or decrease child support, which just was issued 10 months ago! He makes 00 monthly salary! He has 3 vehicles he owns! Dirt bikes, 2 laptops, iphone & garage full of toys for himself! Yet, he cannot send his own 99.99% son funds for his childcare. How can I prevent him from decreasing and or stopping the support payments?
Is it standard for them to issue.
He is also asking that I pay him child support?? My son lives with me? Why are they ordering I pay child support?
I am so confused with all this and do not know my legal rights. I financially cannot afford an attorney.
What is standard and protocol for a child support revisement?
What chances are ther that he can get away with these false statements? I am morally too kind hearted and gullable and just do not want to believe someone could be so mean. How do I protect myself and my son! I do not want to risk his father getting custody because of his word against mine & him being more financially stable than me.
Please help & THANKS SOOOO MUCH for your time. Take Care & God Bless!

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Me and boyfriend (of 5yrs) found out that he has a 8 year old son. He had no idea and is just as freaked out as i am. The girl he saw back then served him with papers for child support and to start a parent child relationship…
I’m feeling all kinds of thing and many of those feelings may be considered selfish, and I hate that. Of course I want him to do the right thing, but now what? Just thinking of all the back pay he may have to pay for child support, everything will change, I just dont know how I am suppose to feel. It seems his additude is already changing toward me about this. help. has anyone been here before?

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i get no child support and live with my mom.

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I am the father of a six year old girl who lives primarily with her mother. My daugther visits me on the weekends and i have a healthy, growing relationship with my daugther. I plan to always be in my daugthers life but I’m afraid that my ex-wife maybe trying to take my daugther away from me illegally. The reason why i know this is because our marriage ended from mistrust and she isn’t a trust worthy person, that is who she is. The other thing is that my daugther keeps on telling me about her mother wanting to take her to colombia around Christmas time. When asked she told me she was getting around to telling me. My question is this, what safe measures can i take from having my daughter leaving the country or another state illegally? I am especially concerned about her leaving to another state because i believe she is seeing someone in North Carolina and i dont want my daugther traveling with out my consent even if its local.I could really use some smart answers on this topic, thank-you.
I would also like to add that yes i am legally divorced, my ex is the custodial guardian and i am a responsible parent who pays child support on time. But could really use some smart advise when it comes to legality and from those who have experience in this, thanks guys!
Alia i dont mind if she goes to columbia, but going to Colombia is a different story. In fact i would encourage her to go to a university instead of travel:)

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What does Petition to Modify Parent Child Relationship mean?
My ex- husband is taking back to court to try to decrease child support, but I just wanted to know if he is trying to open up a custody battle?

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My boyfriend pays child support to his ex-wife for both his 16-year-old daughter and his 15-year-old son, who have lived with his ex for the past 3 years (my boyfriend had custody before that, but his ex convinced the kids to come live with her when they were old enough to sign the paperwork). She and her current husband are pretty terrible parents and have let the 16-year-old daughter turn into quite a monster (cursing, screaming, drinking, etc.). The daughter hasn’t been welcome in our house in a year because of her behavior (the last time she came over, she broke a window to get in because her key was lost). My boyfriend just keeps paying his child support and keeping up a good relationship with his son, resigned to the fact that his little girl has become a mess under her mother’s care.

Well today, we learned that the daughter and the ex-wife, who fight a lot, had a MASSIVE argument, during which the daughter physically assaulted her mother. The ex-wife responded to this by kicking the daughter out of her house. The daughter left with friends, and so far, she hasn’t come to my boyfriend’s house (she probably won’t, since she doesn’t like to live with rules).

Now that his daughter is not in the ex-wife’s home, my boyfriend doesn’t want to pay his ex-wife the child support for her. He was already so upset about how his money was being used, and now he REALLY doesn’t want his ex to get it since she kicked the daughter out herself. I don’t blame him. He will continue to pay support for his son without complaint.

So what, if any, are his legal rights? We’re in Texas, by the way. Does he have to wait and see whether the daughter comes home, whether she and the mom reconcile, etc? Is there a time limit after which the daughter is considered a runaway, or on her own legally? I know the mom won’t go looking for her (well, unless she starts to fear the loss of money). I also know we’d need to get a lawyer to take all of this back to the family courts, but I wasn’t sure whether there was a precedent in this sort of case, or whether there’s a time limit on how long the daughter can be gone before the court decides she doesn’t live with the ex-wife anymore. The ex-wife won’t voluntarily sign away her custody because she wants the money. And we don’t want custody of the daughter, either, because of her behavior. We just don’t want to pay for her if she’s not there to be cared for with the funds, if that makes sense.

Does anyone have any advice/suggestion on how we should proceed? My Google searches aren’t turning up much. Thank you!

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Would a mother be less likely to leave her husband because he is the better parent and her daughter has a better relationship with him (her father), because of this? Her daughter also spends most of her free time with her father. The mother also knows that if she were to leave her husband and give him custody of there daughter, he will never make her pay child support, but she can still see her daughter every day. The mother knows that he will simply move back in with his parents (daughters grand parents).

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I am 20 years old and I am a casual pot smoker, meaning, I do not go out to parties and "get super high, dude". I use marijuana as a relaxation tool. I have a very busy life as I am a full time student in the honors program at my college with a B+ average. I also work as a front end manager at Pathmark part time when I am not at school. I am very responsible, and I try to help my parents as much as possible, although they help me out more than I would like sometimes, and I cannot thank them enough. My problem is my parents are very conservative republicans while I am the complete opposite as a fairly liberal democrat. Naturally we do not see eye to eye on some issues. My parents do not agree with smoking pot whatsoever. In the past, my parents have found my pot and paraphernalia, on multiple occasions. They were upset and my dad called me a "pot head" and insists I have a problem (he says anyone who smokes is a pot head, which is the same as saying anyone who drinks is an alcoholic) because he feels there is no such thing as a casual pot smoker. His reason is that every person whom my dad has ever known who was a pot smoker was a pot head that never became anything of themselves,or were always in trouble with the law, failing to pay child support, etc.. I do not allow my smoking to hinder my studying nor do I neglect homework and assignments or ever blow off class. My dad, however, always says that if I continue smoking, I will probably drop out of school or make other seriously drastic decisions. I take school seriously as I know I need to succeed in college if I want to make anything of myself. Anyway, the point to this novella is: I want my parents to be tolerant or maybe even accepting of my choice, but I do not know how to convince them when every point I try to make they will not have. I am looking for advice from parents preferably, or from anyone who may have found themselves in a similar situation. Intelligent answers please . Thanks in advanced.

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Okay I am a non-custodial parent who pays 0.00 a month for two minor children to their mother which is the custodial parent. We both have joint legal custody and I have visitation. I have a new girlfriend who I reside with who does not have any income. We have a child together which I am taking care of. The 0.00 a month that I pay for my other kid’s parent does not include a credit for me talking care of the dependent child that lives with me that me and my girlfriend have. I know I can get a discount on the child support that I am paying now because I am taking care of a child from another relationship but does anybody know how much of a difference I could pay. I live in the state of Virginia. Thanks

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