I’ve been a "professional homemaker" since the age of 18, now I’m 53. I’ve recently filed for divorce from my THIRD husband. I’m a widow, a two-time divorcee and a mother eight. I’ll keep it as brief as possible but here is how it was.

1. First Husband: Married 1976, had Clarissa in 1978, had Craig in 1981, divorced in 1984.

2. Second Husband: Married 1986, had Justin in 1988, had Randy in 1990, (this marriage was shortest and rockiest. He used heroin, he cheated on me nonstop and then I cheated with the man who became my 3rd husband. We were about to file for divorce but he died in 1991)

*It’s complicated*

3. Third Husband: Married AND had Jessica in the same year 1992, had Emma in 1994, had Mitchell Jr. in 1997, had Tanner in 2002, separated in 2005 tried our hardest to work on our marriage by living apart until we finally filed for divorce this year.

The divorce is not complete yet but it’s a done deal. We’ve even tried counseling. Our marriage has no more hope. I can’t badmouth my third husband, he’s a good man, I’ll always love him but it just can’t work anymore. I’ll be fine financially, he let see me and the children struggle. Our son Tanner is the youngest and he has Down’s Syndrome, so he needs him the most. But emotionally, I feel awful. I feel strange. I’ve NEVER been without a husband. My oldest daughter is married(no kids yet) and my oldest son has a 4 year daughter but he’s not married. I hope they make wiser decisions than I did. I don’t want to marry the next man I date but I’m afraid of dying alone. I’m already 53. So, as far as getting married again, it’s like damn if I do and damn if I don’t. What should I do?
I’m sorry, I mean he WON’T let me and the kids struggle. Excuse me.

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If I’ve pushed my athiest into filing divorce should I agree to teach both ways since divorced will gaurentee this anyway?

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and the children adore him. It is not the childrens fault the father had some nookie with the secretary. It is not the childrens fault hubby cheated. How can a mother be so selfish to put her hurt pride over the wellbeing of the children.
She should not put her children through divorce if the husband is a good father who benefits the children. And please do not give me that a cheater can not be a good father line. By that logic many mothers would need to give away their children.

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I know that divorce is not the easiest situation for all concerned , My ex an I have been separated for a while and have decided to divorce, how do we break the news to our kids (both minors) by causing the least damage?
Should we get a professional person involved?
This is so heartbreaking for all and I need urgent help
Thanks in advance.
why has this not shown up?

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I am seriously considering divorce right now, but I want some feedback from children of divorced parents. How did you feel when your parents divorced? Were you already aware they were having problems with their marriage? How old were you when it happened? How is your life different because of the divorce? Which is more important to you – your parents being happy (together or apart) or your family being together?

I guess my main question, what’s really on my mind, how long did it take for you to forgive your parents? How would you have felt if your parents stayed together and continued fighting to try to keep you happy? The only thing keeping me at home right now is my daughter. I don’t want to hurt her.

Thanks!

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have something to do with it ? Is a traditional family much more likely to raise a "good man" than a family of divorce ?
Aries girl, actually in 3/4 of cases its the woman who iniciates divorce, because of what SHE wants, not because of what is best for the children.

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She stated that his actions over the weekend promted her to file for divorce what was it???

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My friend is going through a divorce. Her and her husband have been having trouble for years, and she has finally told him it is over. She is already seeing someone else. The girls have seen her with him, not in a sexual or romantic way or anything, but he was a family friend and I think they wonder why he is spending so much time with their mommy. Their dad knows about him, and may have mentioned something to them. He is very hateful. Today the girls saw him with her and I and one of them seemed upset. She did not say this was the reason, but I suspect it is. Has anyone gone through a similar situation? Can you tell me what I can tell the girls, or what I can have my friend tell the girls? Should she even say anything? They are pre teens. They love their dad and mom both, and I am scared this is going to ruin their relationship. I wish she would never have let them see her with him, but it is too late.

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What does this mean on my document for my divorce. Can you also give me examples of what I can write for the statement?

"For each factor listed below, state why the best interests of the minor children are served by the children residing primarily with you, including any negative or positive information as to each factor both as to you and your husband.
A. The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parents to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing parent-child relationship, to honor the time-sharing schedule, and to be reasonable when changes are required."
and this:

"B. The anticipated division of parental responsibilities after the litigation, including the extent to which parental responsibilities will be delegated to third parties. "

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I am going through a REALLY bad divorce. My wife has taken advantage of my love for her and the children. I have signed every paper, and belived her words of "trust me". Then I found out she was having an affair, the true reason for the divorce. Since then she has kept my children from me and has used them as wepons. He Mother and Step-father have encouraged and supported her actions, and told me several times they will keep th kids away from me. I have always been the most loving father a father can be. I have treated my kids the way my father did not treat me. Now I have nothing and am alone. She filed a temp restraining order based on lies & now I have no contact with my kids untill the court date and maby not after that if the judge grants the order. Everyone is telling me to trust God and pray that he is breaking me and I need to wait and that God will fix or restore eveything.

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