I have a friend who is 21 and has a 2 year old. She lives with her parents and only works when her dad needs help photograghing weddings, which is not often. She just stays out all the time and wastes money. and says that she wants to have her oqn home but wont do anything to change it. Then when people ask her about her kid she tells them that she is supporting her daughter all on her own and that its not that hard. But she is lying! The baby’s dad take the little girl everyother weekend or so and pays a rather large amount in child support. I am friends with both parents, so I hear both sides. What is your opinion about this whole thing. Do you think that if a mom is recieving child support and the dad is an active parent in the childs life, that she should be allowed to say that she is raising a child on her own. It just annoys me really.
The other thing is that he wants more time with his daughter but my friend is a bit selfish about her daughter. The dad has a girlfriend but my friend can’t stand it when the girlfriend is around her baby. what is her deal???

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okay sooooo im a girl, and i have a girlfriend. we live 3 hours away and my family never knew i was bi untill like 3 weeks ago. we got caught doing e, literally the only time. and from here on out theres so much other things tied with it im not evengunnatry to explain. but any way. my parents are doing everything to make my life hell and not talk to her. weve been texting and skyping when no ones home. but im going away to college this fall and i knowwwwww my parents will probably check my phone calls and stuf.. alot of you would prbably say break up . but when i say me and her are getting married, i meanit. no one has ever gotten me like her before and the same for her. we have such a unique and rare bond no one seems to get.
and it we were to break up, it wouldnt be because were out of love or mad at each other it would be because of the stress, which is horrible, and my parents.
we havent seeen each other since the 4th of july and wont until i go away. hopefully. my parents are crazy and know everything. any advice?
i wish i was 22 and could just move out

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me and my girlfriend have had a really healthy relationship (been dating over a year) and we care alot about eachother. this year we’re going to college together. her parents are excessively religious and tell her stuff like shes a demon and going to hell for spending too much time on the computer. the parents also control internet usage for her 2 older brother and sister and 2 younger sisters.

her parents are very repressed and the subject of sex is very bad for them. they do everything they can to make sure there children do not know what sex is. me and my girlfriend have had sex (we use protection AND SHE IS NOT PREGNANT) and her parents found out a month ago, after searching her computer for no reason without her permission. the father then preceeded to save all of her online conversations, internet searches and all passwords onto a word document, confiscated her cellphone and interrogated her for everything.

at first her father didnt tell her mother for a few days. the punishment was brutal already, they decided to take away her license, internet and cellphone (she pays for her own phone). she is also not allowed to leave the house or be home alone under any circumstances. they also are being shady about college and might not let her go.

when the mother found out, she didnt talk to her for an entire day and then had a huge shouting arguement at her. the parents wanted to take her to a therapist but they didnt like any of them because they werent "moral" which means they want someone to yell at her for having sex. her mother told her if she wanted to continue to live in this house, shes gonna have to find herself spiritually and morally. my girlfriend had been crying for the entire week and then i didnt hear from her for a week and a half.

as of now its been a month. my girlfriend gets 15minutes of internet each night if shes good. she tells me her parents arent getting over this and take her good behavior as her just trying to get on there good side so she can go back to what she was doing before. shes been trying her hardest to prove to them that they can trust her but they just dont care. she has to sign a contract with them promising that she wont go anywhere but work when she has to go to work. she is 18 years old and is imprisoned in her house. her older brother has sex but the parents dont know. the oldest sister has been repressed into not having a social life and has never had a boyfriend, she turns 23 in august.

my girlfriend is in a really bad depression. she isnt religious like her parents, shes more of a realist. but her parents are very fundamentalist to the point where they isolate there children from outside media and culture. if my girlfriend wanted a phone or license, they would push her away by saying "why? so you can be like everyone else?" that’s there response to everything.

she cant have a clear coherent conversation with her parents. they wont get over what happened. my girlfriend have never felt more alone, isolated or hated.

i dont know what parent would do this to their child but im seriously concerned for her. does anyone have any advice for her that i can pass on?

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My dad & stepmom want me to change my attitude toward life. I’m 19. They’re letting me live with them while I commute to my college. They say I do a good job doing chores & paying for all my stuff, but they claim I have a negative attitude. They think I’m self-righteous because I don’t have friends or a girlfriend. They don’t like my tone when I speak to them. They get mad when they have company over, & I never speak to them. They say I need to be more respectful, or I will have to move out soon. I feel like I obey my parents just fine. Everyone thinks I’m spoiled though. I don’t think I’m self-righteous like my parents think. I don’t have friends because I have strict morals in life that noone my age follows. I don’t have a girlfriend because I’m too nice. I don’t know how to be a jerk. So how can I show my parents that I can be respectful? I don’t feel like moving out right now. Thank you for your advice. God Bless

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Ok so his parents and me don’t exactly get on ive never been rude or fallen out with them they just don’t like me. but my boyfriend doesn’t help when we argue he slags me off on facebook and obviously they see. and think the worse of me. makes it worse because they adore his brothers girlfriend and cant do enough for her. and she calls them mum and dad and shes only 16!
ive tried with them but they just politely smile and carry on with what their doing & ive even offered to meet them for lunch one day with my boyfriend but they said no!
ive tried talking to him about it but apparently its my fault they don’t like me because i don’t try
its getting stupid now seeing as ive been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years!

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Now that my sons girlfriend is living at our house, any suggestions on living conditions and raising her.?
i appreciate all your previous help, it has been a really rough few days. We decided not to adopt her, so if the relationship doesn’t work or something goes wrong a foster parent can raise. we talked to social services and they said that we can raise her under our roof.

any advice on how living conditions should be set and how i should raise her, my son is 15 and so is the girlfriend. they have been in a relationship since they were 9. my son suggested she sleep in his room in his bed, and he said he would leave the door open and have the nanny cam in the room. should i allow her to sleep in his room with those conditions. any suggestions on living conditions, there are three bedrooms, me and my husbands, my daughters, and my sons. Im more for letting her sleep in my daughters room, and my daughter loves the idea. but i dint want to depress my son and his girlfriend even more.

Should i just let my son sleep with his girlfriend in the living room with my son on the floor and the girl on the cough, im sorry that this just seems stupid its just that my son and daughter have slept together like on vacations and sleep overs. this is a very stressful problem, i mean my son wont even go to school, because he wants to comfort his girlfriend and she highly appreciates. other advice on parenting this awakward family would be greatly appreciated, thanks.

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to a nice country home closer to his college. I got a job with the Federal Govt and things are a little easier for us. Two months after we moved in he moved in with his girlfriend. I thought he would be happier in a nicer home and our finances are a little better. He said the reason he moved out is he wants to move forward with his life and do things on his own. He works, goes to college full time, gets good grades, works hard at his job and studies martial arts. He is not lazy nor disrespectful to me. We were always close. However, I think he is trying to grow up too fast. He is too young to be serious and living with someone. They share bills, buy food, they live together. He bought her a promise ring last year. It’s not that I don’t like her I think he should be enjoying his youth and not be committed to someone so young. I was hoping he would at least stay home till he graduates college. He lives 15 minutes from me but I rarely see him. I miss him so much I’m heartbroken.He works at a retail store and pretty much the only time I can see him is if I go to the store where he works. I am very depressed over this . I know he has to grow up but I think he is rushing everything. I know I can’t do anything about it cause he is over 18 but it sickens me. By the way they both work at the same store that’s where he met her. I want him to come home so I can be a mother to him at least a few more years. Sometimes I cry about it.Any advice? Thank you.

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Im 15
and I have a really good friend whos a girl and shes 15 also
We are VERY close friends
but over the last 9 months she has been going out wtih this guy
Hes 17
Shes 15
Rememebr that.
So about 5 months ago he broke up with her because he said she was annoying
But all of a sudden he is in love with her again
She says they date but they are not labled as boyfriend girlfriend? Last night she sent me a txt saying that she has been going"all out" with him
they have been haveing S** and shes only 15!!!!
She said all he asks for now are b***jobs and s**
He is using her and she dosen’t see it
Her parents don’t know about it all but don’t really like him
Please I need some adivce on what to say to her and what to do
because I can’t let this ruin are friendship
it make me this really bad feeling and I don’t like it
I need some answers from parents
Teens
People who have this happen
ANYONE!
Please no dumba** answers
only real helpful ones
Thank you

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I keep hearing that response when I ask for opinions for my paper. And I’m sure some time ago I heard that argument on the news… by the president (you don’t have to be intelligent to have your opinion on there).

Of coarse I don’t believe it, but if someone has come across some experiment they did, or something… you’d be allot of help!
Heavenly Creature
No need to yell, I’ve already said I don’t think it’s any harm to the children.

My aunt and her girlfriend have two boys, they are SO sweet! They’re still young, but I know they’ll turn out well.
Equal
I think your right, it’s what outsiders say against them that affect them, not the family unit it’s self. What others say is not their fault. And still, how i banning their marriages/ adoptions going to stop that? It will only make it worse.

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Hi,

I am with this boy, and let me start off by saying that I have my challenges- this plays a part in this story. I am a physically handicapped teenager who is 16. I was born with a disability called Cerebral Palsy- I can’t walk.

Secondly, the relationship I have with this boy is approved by absolutely no one. My circumstances, are more common than I may think, but to me they just stand out. I live with my two elderly grandparents.(66 years old). My grandfather has heart disease and is a diabetic. My biological parents are divorced, my Dad is out of state for work. He has a girlfriend and they have a son on the way, and I am very happy for him. It seems at times that life isn’t always fair for my grandparents. As Thanksgiving approaches, I am very thankful for them, and for my family.

However, this boy and I are teenagers. We met when I was 7. He’s 15. At age 12 he made the mistake of putting his hands on me out of frustration, and trust me, he learned his lesson rather fast. We haven’t done things in the past that prove responsibility, but we’re teens right? Bound to screw up with some things. Once, we got caught kissing on the front porch. My Dad was rather frustrated, he drove to my house, but he can’t punish his little girl. I ended up getting a new cell out of it all and a lecture.

Recently, I’ve had trouble in school with some issues that I’d rather not go into. I was confiding in this boy about it for a very long time, and not telling my family because I feel as if I can’t talk to my grandparents because they have a lot on their plate. However, in the process of dealing with this issue something arose where my text messages needed read, and the texts from him were found.

All we talked about was making out and about how much we love each other- but at that time I was in a really vulnerable spot, and I was reaching out to him, so of course I wanted to hear an "I love you." or two. I admit, I was wrong. I apologized. But, now I’m not allowed to text him until further notice, and neither he or I think it’s fair, and we think my grandparents are overeating. My grandmother is persistent, and consist, on insisting we are not "together" when we have been for a little over a month now, and we’re going to be.

The bond hasn’t been something that has developed overnight though- he was there when my Dad took ill with cancer, and when my parents were going through their own struggles. We really love each other A LOT, and no one seems to see that? How can we help them realize that our love is true, and that I should be allowed to text him? I mean I know everyday the choices I make tell what I am and who, but when do you draw the line? I am an honor’s student with great and well maintained grades.

Shouldn’t I be allowed a little freedom?
Belle
Please excuse my spelling and grammar errors, I hope that they’re not too bad.
My Dad doesn’t wanna get in the middle because he doesn’t live with me.

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