I’ve been a "professional homemaker" since the age of 18, now I’m 53. I’ve recently filed for divorce from my THIRD husband. I’m a widow, a two-time divorcee and a mother eight. I’ll keep it as brief as possible but here is how it was.
1. First Husband: Married 1976, had Clarissa in 1978, had Craig in 1981, divorced in 1984.
2. Second Husband: Married 1986, had Justin in 1988, had Randy in 1990, (this marriage was shortest and rockiest. He used heroin, he cheated on me nonstop and then I cheated with the man who became my 3rd husband. We were about to file for divorce but he died in 1991)
*It’s complicated*
3. Third Husband: Married AND had Jessica in the same year 1992, had Emma in 1994, had Mitchell Jr. in 1997, had Tanner in 2002, separated in 2005 tried our hardest to work on our marriage by living apart until we finally filed for divorce this year.
The divorce is not complete yet but it’s a done deal. We’ve even tried counseling. Our marriage has no more hope. I can’t badmouth my third husband, he’s a good man, I’ll always love him but it just can’t work anymore. I’ll be fine financially, he let see me and the children struggle. Our son Tanner is the youngest and he has Down’s Syndrome, so he needs him the most. But emotionally, I feel awful. I feel strange. I’ve NEVER been without a husband. My oldest daughter is married(no kids yet) and my oldest son has a 4 year daughter but he’s not married. I hope they make wiser decisions than I did. I don’t want to marry the next man I date but I’m afraid of dying alone. I’m already 53. So, as far as getting married again, it’s like damn if I do and damn if I don’t. What should I do?
I’m sorry, I mean he WON’T let me and the kids struggle. Excuse me.
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