My stepdaughter is 7 years old and for the last three years I’ve been the primary caregiver in her life. Her father works a lot but he’s very involved in her activities (Girl Scouts, school, etc.). Her mother on the other hand has next to nothing to do with her. When I first came in to my stepdaughter’s life she saw her mom perhaps every other weekend. The mom would have her own mother pick up my stepdaughter for the weekend and then she’d get to hang out with her mom for perhaps an hour before she was dumped on whatever relative was easiest to leave her with. Two summers ago my stepdaughter’s bio mom decided to move with her mom to another state to finish college. According to the custody agreement my husband and I have her during the school year, she has her during the summer and we trade Christmases and Spring Breaks. She had her for Christmas of 2008 and was supposed to have her for Spring Break this school year. However last summer she didn’t take my stepdaughter because she wanted to travel abroad, then she didn’t take her for Spring Break this year because she didn’t think a week was worth the money it would take to get her there. So it’s been over a year since my stepdaughter has seen her mom (the last time she saw her was in January of 2009).

Anyway, my stepdaughter’s maternal grandmother and her new husband are coming down this weekend to pick my stepdaughter up to take her back for the summer (her mom isn’t coming with them). I’m so depressed by the whole thing. How do people cope with sending their children away for the summer? When we sent her for that one Christmas it was hard, but doable, but we’re talking ten weeks this time.

I’m worried about what her mom will do. In the past she has always done just the minimum. She’d hang out for an hour then say that my stepdaughter was too much for her to handle and dump her on whoever was available. She’s been making all these promises to do things with my stepdaughter that I don’t think she’ll keep because she’s a really lazy person and would rather sit at home on the couch than do something that a child thinks is fun. I know there’s nothing I can do to prevent her from going. I just find myself crying all the time because I’m going to miss her like crazy. She’s such a sweet kid, and really isn’t a difficult child at all. I don’t know why her mom doesn’t want to have more to do with her, but I’m really worried that she’s going to ignore her all summer and pawn her off on Grandma and that my stepdaughter is going to be miserable. How do you handle this? I don’t want my stepdaughter to see how sad I am that she’s going.

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My mom says that the worst thing i could ever do to myself is marry someone that’s divorced and has full custody of their children… She said i’d never be able to get rid of the ex-wife too. I have been dating my boyfriend for a while now and plan to get married but my parents dont know about this.. i want to know what would be a good way of telling them.
She only asks for them once ever few months, and she does pay for child support and wont be near them at all after oct.
he tells me that we’re going to do everything together which makes me feel great but my mom is the one that doesnt seem to want to let go of me.. im her youngest daughter… she relies on me for EVERYTHING…

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i was at a restaurant yesterday and some young punk came up and decided to lecture me on why it’s bad for my child to play around the tables and say hi to people, who do these people think they are, i’m a mom i’ll raise MY child how ever i want to so shut the heck up, you wouldn’t know anything about children, you don’t have any, if you ever decide to grow up and act like an ADULT, you would have children.

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I’m 18 and my mom and i have a pretty decent relationship. We’ve hit some major rocky points at one time or another but always manage to move on and deal.Recently I’ve had a curfew change which I can deal with and really don’t mind.
Im supossed to call her anytime I leave somewhere that I said I would be, so I do. Well today I was at one place all day so I didn’t call her. I told her where I was going before I left and stayed there all day. Next thing I know I get a call and Im being bitched out by her for not calling. Its like I’ve been here all day, so I didn’t call. I see her point in why I should’ve "checked in", but now because of this, she’s gonna change my curfew and probably yell at me in the morning.
QUESTION: How do I deal with a way over protective mother? I’m 18, Im a good kid and don’t get introuble. Feel free to email me if you’d like. Im really sick of dealing with this b.s. and dunno what to do. Thank you.
Btw, she doesnt listen or negotiate well. Its either her way or no way.
I dont live in a bad area either lol I seriously live in a small hicktown where nothin bad ever happens

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well theres this guy ive been tlkin to for almost 4 yrs nd he just ask me out to a date to the movies but his 18 nd im 16..ive been good i have good grades nd he is a good guy too he has a license hes honest nd respectful..im scared to ask my mom whats a good way to ask nd convince her to let me go out? help!

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I believe the mom has her things to do about raising a child and the dad has his things. It is hard to raise a child from a single parent or gay parents.

I find the dad has to be tough on the child, set the rules, punish the wrongdoings

The mom needs to provide tender loving care and make the child feel loved.

Though both parents have to do that, one parent is more responsible for it than the other. What do you think?

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i’m asking for a friend -

my friend is 18 , and her boyfriend is 17 .
his mom is trying to tell her that if they get caught alone together , she’ll report her to the police .

what i want to know is -
is it legal for them to be together ?
because the legal age of consent is 16 in ohio .

thank you !

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I have a friend who is 21 and has a 2 year old. She lives with her parents and only works when her dad needs help photograghing weddings, which is not often. She just stays out all the time and wastes money. and says that she wants to have her oqn home but wont do anything to change it. Then when people ask her about her kid she tells them that she is supporting her daughter all on her own and that its not that hard. But she is lying! The baby’s dad take the little girl everyother weekend or so and pays a rather large amount in child support. I am friends with both parents, so I hear both sides. What is your opinion about this whole thing. Do you think that if a mom is recieving child support and the dad is an active parent in the childs life, that she should be allowed to say that she is raising a child on her own. It just annoys me really.
The other thing is that he wants more time with his daughter but my friend is a bit selfish about her daughter. The dad has a girlfriend but my friend can’t stand it when the girlfriend is around her baby. what is her deal???

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ok so like 6 days ago i had my boyfriend over to have sex and after ten minutes my mom came home and caught us(i thought she wasnt gonna be home till later). but to make a long story short,

* im 17 and so is he
*im christian
*my mom is christian

I told my mom i was gonna wait till marriage but i didnt feel like waiting anymore and i didnt feel comfortable telling her i was ready. so far my mom has:

*switched my room with my sisters
*yelled at my boyfriends parents
*making me go get tested for std’s and such
*trying to get doctors to give me an IUD so i wont get pregnant for 5 years.
*told me my boyfriend wasnt aloud over anymore
*trying ot make me write a report on the costs of apartments, doctor appointments, birthcontrol, etc.

Is she over reacting??? I think she is but i want more viewpoints from people.

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Yes I find it to be very exhausting, I have three and sometimes when I come home from work all I want to do is sleep, but they need me, it is very rewarding though. Praise to all the mom’s you have a hard job.

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