I’ve know that there are some people that are so close to their step-dads that they are/were adopted by them and take their last name and have a genuine relationship just like that of a biological parent-child relationship. I wonder if there are people that share this same strong bond with their step-father but still keep contact with their biological dad also. What’s that like?

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I know everyone may have a lot to say about this, but I am asking only from answers of practicing Muslims who have confessed the Shadadah and keep Islam faithfully.

1) In English, do you prefer to refer to Allah as "God" or as "Allah" or are the two names interchangeable in your opinion when used in English?

2) Which of the following has been the MOST influential to you in developing your feelings and beliefs about Allah? The Quran, Hadith/Sunna, Your Imam, Family, Friends, Personal prayers and personal reflection/revelation, or another source?

3) God has 100 names – which of his names are the most representative of Allah to you? Which would you say are this top 3 to 5 characteristics?

4) Does Allah SWT have a personality that can experience human emoitons, or is such a thing beneath him? We learn in Quran and Hadith that he is merciful and compassionate. Do you feel that Allah knows and loves you personally?

5) Briefly describe your relationship with Allah SWT. Is it a devoted master-servant relationship, a personal parent-child relationship, or other?

6) In general, how does Allah feel about people of the book and other nonbelievers? How do his feelings (if that is the right word) toward non-muslims differ from those toward Muslims?

Thank you for your time! It is really valuable to me to learn more about this and I hope you will also include: your gender, approximate age, location of origin, and whether you were raised in Islam. If you a revert, how long have you been practicing?

I am a student of Arabic and Islam and I am writing a paper on the Nature of God/Allah as represented in the Noble Quran, the Hadith, and according to the opinion of Muslims. So, please be aware that I may summarize your words for inclusion in my paper (just for class project – not publication), but I will NOT use your name or personal information. Your privacy is protected.

Please chat or email me (kazoinker@gmail.com) if you would like to talk about this more. Shukran awi!

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I ask this because we have one on the way and don’t know what to expect. I babysat and such in my younger days (in my 20s now), but I feel like it will be different somehow when it is my own child. Fiance has noo experience with babies! lol

I know it’s a lot of work allllllll the time, but is it really rewarding? What’s it like? I know it seems like a stupid question, but I only have one perspective of the parent-child relationship (my own, as from when I was a child)! Nice answers only please.Thanks

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puts a lot of emphasis on character relationship, other than love and romance. I want something that really focuses on the relationship between best friends, or between siblings, or a parent/child relationship. There can be romance in it, sure, but I’d also like for other kinds of love to be present. Can be any demographic, yaoi and yuri are fine. I only ask that there be no hentai or nudity.

Examples of what I’m looking for are Ouran High School Host Club, NANA, Air TV (for the ark at the end with the mother/daughter love), School Rumble, the Higurashi series, Welcome to the NHK!, etc. (the previous are some of my FAVORITE animes/mangas.)

Others include: Minami-ke, the ARIA series, black cat, special a (kind of), tengen toppa guren lagann, baccano! (with isaac and miria), busou renkin (with kazuki and his friends), fruits basket, ghost hunt, etc…

I’ve seen quite a few animes and read quite a few mangas, so please prvide me with a lot of answers. ^^. And don’t give me anything with more than 100 episodes! Any length manga is fine.

Thanks in advance

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I was brought up in a dysfunctional family . I am 25 years old. I started rebelling when i was probably 10 years old becuz of the illogic ways my family ( even uncles and aunts) were behaving . But my rebelling were all mostly aimed towards my dad . He was the most violent person I have seen . When i was a kid he would lock me up in my room , yell at me for no reason , act like he’s about to hit me ,
basically took all the anger he had towards his own life , on me. .

I went through depression since I was in 5th or 4th grade. It was only recently I found out, through this girl , who I dated , who broke up with me ,…that…. what I went through was called "Emotional Incest" It’s a term used for a parent child relationship where the parent is overly involved or if there is a sort of surrogate partner relationship .( ( I tried to help her before me , but she couldn’t process the information , things got ugly , she went with her family and plus i didn’t have a job at that time ) )
The funny thing is that I am a guy , usually this kinda dysfunctional relationship only happens between the mom and son or the dad and daughter.. But in my case ( since my dad – i am 90% sure is a bi-sexual ) , it was between me and my dad. No touchy wouchy, Just Emotional . Basically what this means is , I was supposed to be in charge of his Emotional Well Being.

Even my mom reinforced this idea into me when i was growing up . She used to say oh you and dad are like always together. So long story short. I never received love a father should give his Son , while he’s growing up . And recently like months ago I taught myself skills to overcome my major depressive mood swings, anxiety , panic attacks and many other disorders.

2 months ago my dad tried to stab me, so i called 911 and now he’s going to court. In the midst of all this , i went to college got my degree in electrical engineering ( as per my mom’s wishes )
Lemme fast forward to the present .As sad as it may sound I live with my parents in a crummy apartment the only thing I Wanna do right now is get the hell out my Parents house.. No one understands me , and plus I wanna use my degree to get a job in electrical engineering and make some money that way. After that I am gonna pay out all my loans and follow my dreams ( Do what I wanna do ) ..

But I can’t seem to do anything because I feel like if i go work then it’s Just Like My Mom’s Forcing Me to Go To College again , and I can’t make my brain believe that it’s not her making me do This ( because it was that painful to be lied to once , When i was in high school she told me i can DO ANYTHING I WANT once i get high school diploma , then when i was in college she lied again saying , i can do anything I WANT once i get my college degree ) and That it’s Me myself.
I am not 100% sure if this is the reason , but i believe that my mind is thinking , if I do something Again that i don’t like( LIKE PREVIOUS TIMES ) then i am going to go into Clinical or Major depression like before and it wasn’t pretty . I don’t know what to do . I know i won’t go into depression or anything of that sort because I have much better coping skills now. I just want to get a job make enough money , QUIT my job and , do what i wanna do , NO MATTER how stupid that sounds… ahh, i don’t know what to do !!!!

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I was brought up in a dysfunctional family . I am 25 years old. I started rebelling when i was probably 10 years old becuz of the illogic ways my family ( even uncles and aunts) were behaving . But my rebelling were all mostly aimed towards my dad . He was the most violent person I have seen . When i was a kid he would lock me up in my room , yell at me for no reason , act like he’s about to hit me ,
basically took all the anger he had towards his own life , on me. .

I went through depression since I was in 5th or 4th grade. It was only recently I found out, through this girl , who I dated , who broke up with me ,…that…. what I went through was called "Emotional Incest" It’s a term used for a parent child relationship where the parent is overly involved or if there is a sort of surrogate partner relationship .( ( I tried to help her before me , but she couldn’t process the information , things got ugly , she went with her family and plus i didn’t have a job at that time ) )
The funny thing is that I am a guy , usually this kinda dysfunctional relationship only happens between the mom and son or the dad and daughter.. But in my case ( since my dad – i am 90% sure is a bi-sexual ) , it was between me and my dad. No touchy wouchy, Just Emotional . Basically what this means is , I was supposed to be in charge of his Emotional Well Being.

Even my mom reinforced this idea into me when i was growing up . She used to say oh you and dad are like always together. So long story short. I never received love a father should give his Son , while he’s growing up . And recently like months ago I taught myself skills to overcome my major depressive mood swings, anxiety , panic attacks and many other disorders.

2 months ago my dad tried to stab me, so i called 911 and now he’s going to court. In the midst of all this , i went to college got my degree in electrical engineering ( as per my mom’s wishes )
Lemme fast forward to the present .As sad as it may sound I live with my parents in a crummy apartment the only thing I Wanna do right now is get the hell out my Parents house.. No one understands me , and plus I wanna use my degree to get a job in electrical engineering and make some money that way. After that I am gonna pay out all my loans and follow my dreams ( Do what I wanna do ) ..

But I can’t seem to do anything because I feel like if i go work then it’s Just Like My Mom’s Forcing Me to Go To College again , and I can’t make my brain believe that it’s not her making me do This ( because it was that painful to be lied to once , When i was in high school she told me i can DO ANYTHING I WANT once i get high school diploma , then when i was in college she lied again saying , i can do anything I WANT once i get my college degree ) and That it’s Me myself.
I am not 100% sure if this is the reason , but i believe that my mind is thinking , if I do something Again that i don’t like( LIKE PREVIOUS TIMES ) then i am going to go into Clinical or Major depression like before and it wasn’t pretty . I don’t know what to do . I know i won’t go into depression or anything of that sort because I have much better coping skills now. I just want to get a job make enough money , QUIT my job and , do what i wanna do , NO MATTER how stupid that sounds… ahh, i don’t know what to do !!!!

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I was brought up in a dysfunctional family . I am 25 years old. I started rebelling when i was probably 10 years old becuz of the illogic ways my family ( even uncles and aunts) were behaving . But my rebelling were all mostly aimed towards my dad . He was the most violent person I have seen . When i was a kid he would lock me up in my room , yell at me for no reason , act like he’s about to hit me ,
basically took all the anger he had towards his own life , on me. .

I went through depression since I was in 5th or 4th grade. It was only recently I found out, through this girl , who I dated , who broke up with me ,…that…. what I went through was called "Emotional Incest" It’s a term used for a parent child relationship where the parent is overly involved or if there is a sort of surrogate partner relationship .( ( I tried to help her before me , but she couldn’t process the information , things got ugly , she went with her family and plus i didn’t have a job at that time ) )
The funny thing is that I am a guy , usually this kinda dysfunctional relationship only happens between the mom and son or the dad and daughter.. But in my case ( since my dad – i am 90% sure is a bi-sexual ) , it was between me and my dad. No touchy wouchy, Just Emotional . Basically what this means is , I was supposed to be in charge of his Emotional Well Being.

Even my mom reinforced this idea into me when i was growing up . She used to say oh you and dad are like always together. So long story short. I never received love a father should give his Son , while he’s growing up . And recently like months ago I taught myself skills to overcome my major depressive mood swings, anxiety , panic attacks and many other disorders.

2 months ago my dad tried to stab me, so i called 911 and now he’s going to court. In the midst of all this , i went to college got my degree in electrical engineering ( as per my mom’s wishes )
Lemme fast forward to the present .As sad as it may sound I live with my parents in a crummy apartment the only thing I Wanna do right now is get the hell out my Parents house.. No one understands me , and plus I wanna use my degree to get a job in electrical engineering and make some money that way. After that I am gonna pay out all my loans and follow my dreams ( Do what I wanna do ) ..

But I can’t seem to do anything because I feel like if i go work then it’s Just Like My Mom’s Forcing Me to Go To College again , and I can’t make my brain believe that it’s not her making me do This ( because it was that painful to be lied to once , When i was in high school she told me i can DO ANYTHING I WANT once i get high school diploma , then when i was in college she lied again saying , i can do anything I WANT once i get my college degree ) and That it’s Me myself.
I am not 100% sure if this is the reason , but i believe that my mind is thinking , if I do something Again that i don’t like( LIKE PREVIOUS TIMES ) then i am going to go into Clinical or Major depression like before and it wasn’t pretty . I don’t know what to do . I know i won’t go into depression or anything of that sort because I have much better coping skills now. I just want to get a job make enough money , QUIT my job and , do what i wanna do , NO MATTER how stupid that sounds… ahh, i don’t know what to do !!!!

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Okay, Christians claim that humans have a "god given moral compass." My moral compass tells me that an eternal suffering (hell) that your God has put in place for non-believers like me is immoral. An intellegent, loving God could come up with any number of ways to deal with non-believers, so what’s up with the eternal torture? Is this a moral system? Please don’t use the "we have free will" argument. It does not apply here. Think of it like a parent/child relationship. The child may have the choice as to "obey" or not, but the parent decides the punishment. So please don’t say "free will" at any point in your answer because you would just be avoiding the question. Also, please don’t state that "satan" is responsible for hell. Satan could not be the creator of anything. Only your God could create a place like hell.

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A judge in Texas has already assumed jurisdiction and issued a temporary order in a suit affecting the parent-child relationship, despite the venue being improper, as the child resided in a different county at the time of the filing of the petition. Can I file something to make him dismiss the case and require the petitioner to file the case in the county where the child actually lived? I know the Texas Family Code says that the petition must be filed in the county where the child resides. What would I file to have this dismissed because of the improper venue? Is it too late? Someone said I had to object to this before the hearing. I actually did bring this up at the beginning of the hearing. It was in my answer, but the judge ignored it. Is an appeal on these grounds my only recourse if the judge doesn’t care if he’s breaking the law by assuming jurisdiction in this case?

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Before you all tell me to get a lawyer, know that I am counseling with one, but was hoping to get some answers on here as well. I am in the middle of a custody study/dispute, and a guardian ad litem was assigned. At the moment, we have joint custody and I have full placement by default because he did not show up for the temporary physical placement court date. The comissioner stated that the father is not allowed to bring this issue before the court again without good cause. Now the guardian ad litem is motioning the court to "Amend Temporary and Physical Placement Orders to Effect FCS Observation of Parent-Child Relationship". When I spoke to the guardian ad litem, she told me she was only going to arrange 3 visits with the father and my child so the custody evaluator could observe, but now she is asking the court for consistent, continual visits after that.She has also requested full control to approve the person(s) who will be supervising his visits, despite telling me that this would be conducted at a counseling center in a safe environment. I am VERY concerned by this. There is a history of domestic violence on his part, drug and alcohol abuse, and my child (who is 3 years old) displayed many signs of anxiety and aggression when he had visitation with his father in the past. (He had visitation on weekends for almost a year, but has not seen my child since January-9months) Do I have any legal footing to stand on to object to this? Any legal advice would be very much appreciated.

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